Online RSVPs

I hated our online RSVPs. We had our website through the Knot so anyone could RSVP for any number of people. I had one person we RSVP and add a plus six (not invited +6). We had another truly single person (friend) RSVP for their parents who I've met maybe twice and weren't invited. Ugh I had to make so many calls

If you really want to go this route find a website where the guest has to input some password or something and doesn't allow them to add extra guests.

I am using the knot, however you can set it to where if a name is not on your guest list, they cannot RSVP.

I was thinking the same thing, paper RSVPs for older guests and then online RSVPs for everyone else.

We have online RSVPs with the knot.

I did online RSVPs through WeddingWire and had no issues whatsoever. People could only rsvp for the exact names I put in so there was no way for guests to add anyone extra.

We did online RSVPs through our wedding website on Minted and our guests have complimented us on how easy and efficient it was, since registry and accommodation info and RSVP was all in one place.

Minted allowed us to set a limit on the number of "pluses", which is a great thing to have- no one could add any extra people without our informed consent.

We used TheKnot.com and only input the names of those who were invited. No problems with anyone adding guests or kids. 248 of 250 invited guests responded 10 days before our due date.

I wouldn't underestimate the older generation. 3 of 4 of our grandmothers have internet access and were able to complete the online responses - the oldest was 87 at the time.

I'm using the Knot for my wedding. As @Elayna A. stated, they give you options in regards to controlling who can or cannot RSVP. I chose that only guests from the guest list can Rsvp and no one else. As for the other question, I'm doing both, online and paper, because I'm finding not everyone is responsive to online RSVP's.

Like @MrsC2B, I used Minted and I absolutely loved it. They had the cutest designs of anywhere else I looked and it's very easy to use. The fact that it allows you to pick how many people your guests can RSVP for was super helpful too.

My guests weren't the best at RSVPing in general so I had to get in contact with a lot of people but I don't think that had to do with the fact that I was doing it online.

This is what you will be shown if you are not on the guest list

It truly doesn't matter. Most people are assholes and will not be bothered to rsvp, rsvp for extra people, etc.

I did paper and offered an option for online. No one RSVP'd online. We had to track down half of our responses. Oh and - one girl added a plus one when she wasn't given one. I told her I would get back to her if we had some declines. We did and I let her know last week that she could bring him. Her response, "Oh, we aren't dating anymore."

Yesterday, my fiance's cousin told him he may show up with some girl. We said NO, you can't add anyone now. Oh and someone just texted my fiance asking if he could come....he wasn't invited. And this is a small wedding, under 100.

Kill me.

I wouldn't use online RSVP only because some of the older people we are inviting won't understand how to use it.

I wouldn't use online RSVP only because some of the older people we are inviting won't understand how to use it.

I use wedding wire's rsvp tool. It's so easy and it links to the seating chart tool that they have.

The online rsvp worked for most. I actually texted/contacted some ppl who haven't rsvp and I just did it for them.

Thanks everyone! This was helpful. I'd never known how it went for other people and wanted input

We used the wedding wire RSVP's. I included a details card with instructions on how to RSVP. Even our older guests had no trouble. One called us to accept, the other sent a card to decline.

We used online and paper. 2 used online, maybe 25 used paper. People just don't know how to RSVP.

Im using wedding wire... if your name is not on the guest list you cant rsvp. I have a password on my website

We plan on using Zola's website, you input your guest list and you can signify if they are a single person (with optional +1), a couple, or a family. So when guests go to rsvp they type in their name and can rsvp for themselves and their SO/family/+1 and you can include any extra questions like food choice, diet restrictions, song request, etc. And no one is able to add on any uninvited guests which is great. And it's very simple to use.

But I'm also still contemplating how I would send this out with invites. Whether I just indicate rsvp online or have it also be a option to mail rsvps. We only have our grandparents invited that are older guests as were having a smallish wedding so we may just tell them they can just let us know over the phone.

We are using Rsvpify.com, it works really well! There are settings that only allow people who are on your guest list rsvp, and only those you've given a +1 to add someone etc.

We also sent everyone a traditional RSVP as well for those technology challenged individuals, but as others have said no matter which method you go with people just simply don't RSVP!

Good luck!

We created a new gmail account and people RSVPed there. we checked in with the handful of peeps who we knew didn't have email. it worked totally fine.