Online rsvp

I gave paper RSVP cards to people I thought might want one (more traditional and less tech-savvy people, i.e. older people) but still have them the option of RSVPing online on the invite. For people my generation and anyone I felt wouldn’t mind RSVPing online, I only gave that option.


I do think that intentionally not stamping return envelopes with the hopes that it deters people from RSVPing that way is a little rude.

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This is also what I'm doing, 100%. We're using RSVP postcards to save on printing and postage (35 cent postcard stamps vs 55 cent first class stamps), but only distributing them to anyone over 50ish. Everyone else will be RSVPing online (we're using RSVPify).

View Quoted Comment We’re using Zola, but it’s about the same concept.

We did online only RSVPs. Even our technology challenged grandparents had no problems doing it that way. I wouldn’t give people paper RSVP without a stamp.

We only sent RSVP cards to grandparents and other guests that don’t use computers much. It was fine and would 100% recommend this approach.

We are doing online rsvp as well. We are doing a few mail in ones for our older crowd who aren’t too computer savvy. My grandma doesn’t even own a computer so old fashioned it is but just for a few guests.

Online RSVP is awesome! I used Evite, and I only mailed one paper RSVP to my Grandma because she isn't that computer savvy. Everyone else is going to do it online. The nice thing about Evite is you can see who has opened the RSVP link. As the date gets closer, you can call anyone who hasn't looked at it to confirm they aren't having technical issues.

Daughter did ONLY online RSVPs. Everyone except two great aunts in their 80's handled it just fine (including some relatives who claim, "they don't do the internet..."). One of the elderly aunts wrote a lovely note letting daughter know she wasn't up to the cross-country trip and the other emailed me to say she didn't think it worked (she hadn't clicked submit after making her selections...). Overall, it worked GREAT for us -- including hard copy RSVP cards would have been a complete waste.

We are doing online only RSVPs. I thought it would be much easier to keep track of, and would eliminate the it got lost in the mail” variable. Plus, it saved tons of time and money since we don’t not need to order RSVP cards, purchase postage and return envelopes for them, or have to sit down & address them all. And, let’s be honest, most people these days prefer to click a button in their home, rather than mail out a card. I figured at least half the money spent on RSVP cards would have been wasted.

For us, we're doing 100% online RSVPs. But if we were doing some mail in rsvp cards, we would have definitely added the stamps to it for our guests. For our group of family and friends, we knew it wouldn't be hard for them to RSVP online. Some have come to me asking why do they have to rsvp when we know they are coming. I said that's so great y'all are coming, but you need to RSVP either way so that we can keep track of that. It's a bit funny actually. Some of our family and friends are sadly lazy or simply feel like they shouldn't have to RSVP. I had to explain to some guests they 100% needed to RSVP, or they simply couldn't be counted as attending.

We had our RSVP's go to our wedding email.

1. It depends on your crowd. You should take into account age of guests, how tech savvy they are, and what's typical for RSVPs in your group.

2. I think it's okay to not stamp it if they can also RSVP online.

In our case, we stamped & addressed RSVP cards but the card also listed a place to do it online. About 80% of our guests sent back the paper RSVP cards even though they were a much younger crowd. Only about 20% used the online response.

View Quoted Comment That’s a good point. I think I’m going to send the card to nontec savvy guest with a stamp to be fair but our crowd is pretty young and forgetful so I’ll do them online

We did 100% Online RSVPs and even our oldest guest, who is 91, was able to navigate the website just fine. I think the most confused people were the younger ones, which was weird!! They ended up texting us and we just RSVP'd for them. No big deal. The most confusing thing about our online RSVP's was that there wasn't a "no" option, so people did call about that because they couldn't figure out how to RSVP no. Again, we just RSVP'd for them.

My thought is this: More and more, these things are moving online, including the actual invitations, so people should just start getting used to it now. It'll make it easier on them in the future if they've already gone through the process online before.

I would do some online and some mail ins also. just because i know that older folk may not be as proficient with technology.

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How did you word the invite/response request with both the online option and stamped card?

I was going to do card responses only, but we are now going to be traveling internationally for a wedding right around the time of the RSVP due date so I'm worried about things getting lost if I put a hold on my mail (this has happened to me in the past). So I'm leaning towards giving both as an option, I know most of our younger guests would take advantage of the online RSVP but I also like the traditional response card approach so still want to keep that as an option.

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We had a separate RSVP card. It said "___ out of ___ attending" and we filled out the second # for those invited. We had a yes box, no box, and a transportation box since we provided this for the guests. At the very bottom in a smaller font it said "You can also RSVP online at www.xxxx.com"