One tough decision to make, thanks covid

Yes, I think everyone’s plans have changed. Whether it be dropping guest count, postponing, canceling, having small ceremony and big fiasco next year, everyone is feeling it. And it sucks. LOL


We already postponed. Got married on our date and will have our wedding this September.
As far as your mom, I think you should explain to her that your plans have already been shifted and getting married in your dress for the small ceremony isn’t apart of your new plans. I wore a simple white dress 1) my gown wasn’t even ready (salon closed due to Covid) 2) it didn’t feel the same and I’m glad I didn’t.
Hopefully she will be understanding. Maybe you can wear the veil as a compromise? Good luck to you!

We are moving forward getting married as long as our families can be present. I don’t know what I would do if only 10 would be allowed to witness it. 10/24 is our date! We are going through all the guidelines and orders, I’ve accepted that it is a part of our story now and I’ve seen brides still have an amazing day so I’m hopeful. I can’t keep pushing it out only to keep hoping and dragging on this stress another year. Not unless the state forces my venue to close.

10/31/20 was my original wedding date and I was waiting until the last minute to postpone. I finally did it and I've surprisingly felt so much relief after. I'm still sad because for us halloweenies that Saturday halloween was absolutely perfect, but to find some positive in postponing to a Sunday ( my least favorite day of the week) we thought "Well at least it's not a Wednesday wedding" . I was ok with compromising on certain things because of covid to still be able to go through with the wedding, but I took a step back and saw how warped from my original vision it was becoming and just couldn't. At the end of the day, we are the ones that will have to live with those imperfections bugging us and I just couldn't do it.

I kept saying how long I've wanted to be married and how I just wanted to get it out of the way. That made me think of other relationship milestones that I desperately wanted to experience and how much effort I put into it, and now in hindsight I feel like those worries were so minuscule in the (hopefully) long timeline that should be our relationship. So I figured, "we've waited all this time, why not wait another year for a perfect day?".

I hope you and your FH find the clarity you're looking for and choose what feels best for you.

I'm so sorry, hun. It does suck!!

We are having a very small ceremony, only immediate family and a meal, the reception and ceremony in the same place on Valentine's Day...then a big celebration outdoors August 2021. I would say I've lost some of the excitement for the event, but marrying my FH is all that really matters, and I'm trying hard not to lose sight of the joy that comes from that part! We were recently told we may have to cut our guest list further, but FH and I made the decision, even if it's just the two of us and a couple witnesses, we are not postponing again or changing venues. It's almost starting to feel like this ceremony is a box to be checked off our to-do list

Stay strong. You're not alone and, when it's all said and done, you will be marrying the man of your dreams. ::hugs::

I'm so sorry Brittany, that's such a tough decision to make. ❤️

I'd take a little time off from thinking about wedding plans if you can, to give yourself time to grieve your original plans and let your emotions settle. Then you can start thinking about your ceremony plans!

In the meantime you can browse these posts with lots of great dress inspo: Show me your short wedding dresses!, Show me your micro wedding/elopement dresses!, and Still getting married on your date? Will you wear your wedding dress?

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Thank you for your encouraging words! I greatly appreciate them! Its really been a rollercoaster of emotions and have been a big pain.

I'm glad you guys were able to get married on your date and then having the big wedding later! I bet it takes a lot of the stress off hopefully??

Yeah, she's very understanding when it comes to COVID and how things are. I think now that we are just cutting the guest list she feels better.

Thank you! The last few days have been a little stretched and FH and I talked it over. We will go with our venue and do the "big" wedding but will cut the guest list and just keep moving forward. The only thing now that will stop it from happening is a state-wide shutdown.

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That makes sense! I told my family the ones that I want to be there but it's their choice if they want to. I am just concerned now that I have a few that are coming from out-of-state. That makes sense to keep the date and not have to stress about it! I think I am doing the same as you unless the state closes our venue FH and I decided that we are moving forward. I hope your planning is going well and that it's not too stressful!! I would love some pictures!!

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I was in that same boat to wait until the very last second and spoke to our venue and we would honestly lose a lot of money and FH and I just said okay well let's do this until if the state says nope! So I understand that sadness feeling and even though you had to postpone I think its still going to be a lot of fun!! The vision of what your day looks like may have been started to get wrapped but at least now you have time to plan and really get those details!! I'm glad that you are staying positive with everything going on!!

Thank you we both appreciate that!! Its been a rollercoaster of emotions!!

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That's nice to have a small intimate ceremony and then have a party type thing happen! I think how you are thinking that it's about you two is the best way to get excited about it again!! I hope that happens for you!! Well, at least you are both in agreement!! Yeah, I understand that to-do list feeling. It's very understandable!

Thank you very much for your kind words! I really appreciate them!! I know we all got this and like you said one way or another I will be marrying the man that has set my soul on fire!

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Lynnie, I did! Thank you for that advice! I greatly appreciate it! I took a few days away from everything else and really looked at whats going on. FH and I decided to stay at our venue but cut the guest list and made sure our parents are comfortable to be there. My mum even said, "if I have to wear a bubble suit to see my baby girl get married I will!" LOL, I thought that was awesome! I'm going to wear my big ball gown and enjoy the day!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you. You should join 2020 Brides Not Changing Their Date and Wedding disaster support group ok Facebook. I’ve found it very helpful for me since many are in similar situations.

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I'm so glad that was helpful!! I know it's always helpful for me to give myself some time to let my emotions settle!

And I love your mom's attitude!!

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There's a Facebook group for this? That's awesome! That's the name of it?? I think I shall join it then!