One sided guest list

Our guest list was similar. Most were on my side and hubby didn't have many. But at the end of the day he was surprised about the people who showed up on his side. And my side has been very inclusive of him. Keep your head up. You're gaining a family. They all love both of you!

Yea my husbands family is way larger and his moms guest list was far larger than mine

With having to cut our guest list from 75 to 50, now 50% of our guest list is his family, Outside of my siblings and my godparents (who cannot attend for health reasons), most of my family isn’t really part of our lives since my parents’ passed. Literally only one uncle and one cousin has reached out to us since we’ve been engaged. I opted to invite friends that are closer to us (like family) to fill up my side of the list. I wish it were different, and it does make me sad. However, his family is super supportive...so I’m pretty lucky.

Yes. Family and friend side. My fiancé really was more of a loner. He’s invited some family and a few friends, but nowhere near the amount I’ve invited. He’s okay with this, but I hate how isolated he was before we got together.

My wife has a significantly larger family than I do, so her half of the guest list was a little heavier than mine. It was important for us to think of them as “our” guest and not my guests or her guests. Everyone is attending your wedding to support the two of you as a couple, not just one or the other.

My fiance doesnt have much family left and only a couple of friends. Family wise he only has his brother, sister and niece and his brother is his best man and his niece is a bridesmaid and I'm pretty sure his sister wont be attending so his part of the guest list is significantly smaller than my part. I dont plan on having "his guests" seated on one side and mines on the other. And as a PP said everyone is attending to support you as a couple. Don't be down you're gaining a bigger family!

Depending on the Covid situation, my FH may have no one (friends or family) in attendance. You’re not alone.

Yes. My family is much smaller and all live out-of-state. Because of COVID, only my parents could come. I was sad some of my family members I don't get to see much weren't able to come, but had the best day regardless

My FH’s guest list is definitely larger than mine, despite both of his parents being deceased. He has a close group of friends that he’s had since he was a kid, an “adoptive” family that is closer to us than many of our blood relatives, and two siblings. I agree with the PP to try focusing on your guests as both of your guests. Try not to overthink who isn’t coming on your side, you found the person you want to spend your life with and the people who are there to witness and celebrate with you two will be there because they want to be.

A lopsided guest list is normal. Try to shift your mindset on the people who are there to support & love you both. Way better to be surrounded by positive love than an equal guest list when some from one side don’t add much support. ♥️ ♥️

My guest list is wayyy larger than my future husband's. The only part of the wedding where anyone would notice would be the ceremony when the guests usually sit on the one side or the other. You could put one of those signs "Choose a seat not a side" if you want. But I think it's normal for one side to be larger than the other.

We are having a 50 person event. 3 of my family members (parents and one of my sisters) and 15 guests are on my side. The rest is his and we had to cut lots of family on his side and not give plus 1s to make it work. I’m just happy I have a decent amount of friends there but if you look at it it’s 18 guests on my side and 32 from his side. It is what it is...I do like his family much more than mine, so that helps.

We Have Invited 60 Guests-8 Of Them Are My Family And A Few Friends. The Rest Is His Family And Majority Ive Never Even Met.

Yes, I had 6 people on my guest. I had 2 family, 2 friends and 2 plus ones I didn't know well (it felt wrong not to given this wasn't covid and Valentine's day)


My fiance had a bigger he had 2 friends and 14 family.
I am not going to lie and say I liked it. It felt isolating and bad. My recommendation is to keep the guest list minimal. Covid-19 gives a good excuse. If I had to do it all over, we would elope.

Our guest list is very uneven. I don’t have a relationship with my Dad’s side of the family and have always been introverted and have a small group of close friends. Our list is currently at 130 and 20 of those are from my side.

Try not to stress about this. I think it’s more normal than you think. We had 52 people and he only had 3 family and I had about 18 and the rest were friends. Just enjoy the group of people that will be there to celebrate with you on your special day. Congratulations!

I'm in the same boat! My family doesnt talk...except my brother mom and grandma which is a total of 5 people. I only have 2 or 3 close close friends and that it. My fiancee has about 85% of our guest list or more....but the way I look at it is we will all be family and all of his friends are my friends too. I like to think that they are there to support both of us not just him! We decided to only have one person stand with us in the wedding to avoid him having 10 people and me having 4. I think a wedding should be what you're most comfortable with and screw what other people think. I'm an introvert and super akward in most situations so I did feel weird at first making the guest list and realizing I'm only inviting 20 out of the 111 people coming. But i became okay with it...some ppl have a alot of friends and family and some people like to keep a small group and thats okay. Just try and remember like i already said they are there to support you both and welcome you into their side of the family.

You're not alone. I felt the same way at first. Not because I don't have much family. I have way too much but we had planned on an intimate wedding (no wedding party) and I realized everyone on my side weren't just family but also elderly while FH doesn't have much family at all.

His side was all friends, his parents and a few family friends. I told him how I felt and we increased our guest list. Now, I have more people on the list than he does and sometimes I feel bad but he gets along with my family so well, he keeps telling me it's ok.

Totally get it! You just have to get in the mindset of how blessed you are to be marry into a family that is close. They will be your family now...I’m in the same position but I realize me getting married isn’t gonna change something that has been for so long. I’m just glad to have a great guy I can spend the rest of my life with. Just so your beat to create what you didn’t have and don’t dwell on the past. Onward and Upward from here😊

You have to change your way of thinking of it in all honesty. I am the same way for our wedding I will only have 1 person from my family. So yes it is tough when you think about it like that, so instead I have made myself think of the guest list as our family or my future family. They are coming to support both of us and our love not just my future wife. Just try and stay positive!