One side of the family-absent?

I'm so sorry. That must be rough. Just try to remember the people who are there are people who have supported you through everything who you've built beautiful memories with! I love that it's going to be small because you're going to have an opportunity to personally connect with everyone there. Think of all you have and all the love you will have that day and focus on that. Is she invited and you just think she wont come or is she not invited?

I am in the same boat but neither side will be there, mom or dad. Both r toxic. Im in my 40s so Ive learned to not dwell on it. I have 4 children and focus on their love and support. Our guest list is 24 and im really ok with that. Less stress, money and drama. Please focus more on the positives. U choose to keep these people out of ur life for good reason, dont dwell on their negative, dont let it affect ur positive.

I’m sorry that it’s bothering you so much. There’s a reason your mother is not a part of you and your family’s life. I’d just ask you to remember that instead of focusing on the fact that she won’t be a part of your wedding day.

I don’t have a relationship with my mom either. She’s just a toxic person who I can’t be around. I guess it’s sad that she isn’t a part of my day but my wedding will be surrounded by those who love and support us.

I had absolutely no family at my wedding. My mom passed away last year and my dad decided since I wasn't his biological daughter that he no longer saw me as his daughter. It hurt but it wasn't too surprising since we never had a close relationship anyway. We had 40 guests which included my DH's immediate family and my closest friends. I had long ago realized that "family" doesn't always mean "related" but rather those who love us and who we love in return. I could not have asked for a better wedding and it was so full of love that I didn't miss having my so-called family there. Focus on the people who are happy for you and who love you. If you do that you will have a very happy day.

View Quoted Comment Exactly this.

This was really helpful for me, too. I actually am lucky enough to have both parents at the wedding, but I don't have a relationship with any extended family on either side, really, and even a brother from my dad's side, that all weren't invited. It's caused me to second guess myself a few times, especially when we got our replies back and the groom side over doubles mine! It's hurt my feelings a few more times than I'd like to admit, but honestly, it's very helpful to know that 1) we're not alone in feeling like this, and 2) we ARE going to have the people that love and support us the most there and THAT'S what really matters. Thanks WW ladies for giving me perspective today! Happy Sunday, and happy planning!

My parents are not involved in my life and I haven't spoken them in over a year now. It bugs me but I've mostly come to terms with it. I'm really close to my FH family so it kind of makes up for it. I'm also close to two of my siblings so it makes thing easier. My advice is to just focus on all the positive people in your life. During this time, it's what truly matters.

View Quoted Comment Happy Sunday to u to!!! Its hard, I know but as u get older u realize blood is just that, only blood, its not love.

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Hi Yvonne,

Thank you for your kind words. I would never want my mom at my wedding, she didn't know anything about my wedding until my youngest sister's godmother blabbed. SO annoying, but yeah.

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Hi there,

I am sorry you're in a similar boat as me, it's rough, but you're right. It's always good to focus on the positives, thank you for your input.

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Hi Kenisha,

I am sorry. I hear what you're saying. Thank you for your positive words

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Hey Earias,

My condolences for your mother's passing. I am so sorry. And what your dad did was just plain cruel. I am happy that you still had a great wedding, and you're right. Thank you

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Hey Tashia, I am so sorry some extended family won't be there, but at least you have your parents support, which is the greatest of all. I am so happy to have you in this discussion.

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Hi Stephanie,

I am sorry for the ongoing situation with your parents. I know what you mean when you say it bugs you, I feel the exact same way. It's awesome you fit right in with your future husband's family. That's beautiful. I'm blessed with amazing siblings as well. Thank you for your positive words

My mom's side of the family will be just my mom. The rest of my family is my stepdad's family and my biological father isn't in the picture. My mom's relationship with her siblings is very toxic (she left home at 17 and never looked back) and we don't really talk to them. I will have three people on my side (mom, sister, and nephew) that I'm related to but many more that I call my family.

It all really goes based on the relationship you have with. You could try to reach out to them but don't get your hopes up to be let down. I totally understand how your feeling. My mother and her side isn't going to be apart of my wedding either because of my relationship with her and it bothers me but i just focus on the fact that their is still plenty of people there to support me. Also my finances family isn't going to be there. He doesn't know them at all all its only going to be his parents his brothers and their kids. I decided to get with his best man which his more of a brother to him and we invited lots of friends that are close to him like family.

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Wow, your mom is really brave. So sorry about the toxicity. It's terrible. It's good you have people in your life that you are proud to call family. It's amazing. Thank you for your insight.

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Hi Shante,

I don't intend on reaching out to my mom at all. Our relationship or lack of will remain stagnant because of her. She wanted it to be this way, so I still have to live my life. I've tried all of that crap of trying to reach out in the past, and it gets me right in front of a brick wall. I'm tired of it. It's annoying and overall just frustrating. I honestly didn't even want my mom knowing I was getting married, but there's always a blabbermouth, LMFAO! Thank you so much for your insight.

I have 0 relationship with my dad or his family (if any are still living. I don't even know.)

My mom passed away when I was 13 but her side of the family is all I have.

It's definitely rough.