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One or two bridal showers?

Anonymous, on April 4, 2022 at 9:36 PM Posted in Planning 7 5

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Hi!
My sister is getting married and I’m her MOH. My sister is a lesbian. I’m planning her bridal shower and I’m really torn if I should tell my sisters brides MOH to plan a separate shower for my sister spouse. I’m torn because this is my only sisters wedding and I want to make her Bridal shower really special. I don’t want to sound cheap or heartless but I feel like I shouldn’t be the one worrying about my sisters bride. My sisters bride chose a friend she has only knew a few years as her MOH and she’s not willing to spend as much as I am for my sister so I honestly don’t know what to do. I have a family of my own so it’s not like I have endless amounts of money to be paying for two brides showers. I want to make my sisters day special and of course will include her bride but I just feel it’s my sisters brides MOHs job to throw her a bridal shower. Am I being unreasonable? Just looking for a little insight if anyone has been in the same predicament or a little advice of what you might do if you were in the same position. Thank you in advance!

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Latest activity by Ashlee, on April 5, 2022 at 10:29 AM

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Willow · on April 4, 2022 at 10:54 PM
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Why don't you throw a small joint shower for both brides and see if other people are willing to pitch in? A shower does not have to be expensive or complicated
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Hannah · on April 4, 2022 at 11:25 PM
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I agree with Willow. I would just do 1 shower for both brides. Couples showers are becoming more common anyway, and the gifts are for both partners anyway (it isn't like only one of them us ever going to use that frying pan or coffee maker or whatever). Talk to the other MOH and see if you two can coordinate. The amount of money spent isn't what makes the event special. It's the people there to celebrate. As long as you have some appropriate refreshments (food and drinks that match the time of day), you're fine.
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Sarah · on April 5, 2022 at 9:39 AM
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Assuming it’s a reasonable size guest list I would do a joint shower and just ask any bridesmaids as well as the other MOH to help however they can. It doesn’t need to be extravagant. Even if all of the bridesmaids make a side dish and you take care of the main food, like chicken or pizza.
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Ansley · on April 5, 2022 at 10:21 AM
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You could do a joint shower for both brides that way everyone can pitch in. It doesn't have to be super expensive. The most important thing is they know how much they are cared about.
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Ashlee · on April 5, 2022 at 10:29 AM
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My FH's cousin recently got married. Her and her wife had a joint surprise shower. It was at a restaurant on a covered patio. We had lunch, played a couple games, and they opened gifts together. It was simple and doesn't necessarily have to break the bank. Maybe you could talk to both sides of the wedding party and plan a special joint one
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