One month till the wedding. Can I still invite people?

My FH and I were invited as B list guests to a wedding recently, and while I understood the situation, it seemed pointless. We attended, and it was great, but I would just stick with the original guest list if I were you.

Just leave it be. You'll save money and people won't feel like they weren't quite as good as the other guests.

Would this increase the price or would it be the same amount regardless?

It depends on how much you want them there. I was a B list guest a few years ago, but I got a personal call to come because they had more "no's" than anticipated. The personal call from the bride didn't make it seem like I was an afterthought when she said she wanted me there in the first place, but mandatory family invites had to come first. It was extended cousins that declined. As a bride, I get it. Just don't make them feel like an after thought.

I was talking with a co-worker about her recent wedding. The venue had a 100 person minimum, They invited 130 but then ended up with only about 80 people rsvp. So a week or two before the wedding she invited more people who did end up attending the wedding. They still did reach the 100 person minimum but they were paying for 100 whether 100 people attended or only 20 people. The "B" list people were some that she didn't know that well but they've since gotten together a few times and are lovely.

So...maybe reach out to them personally with a phone call and explain. If they seem positive, I would send them an invitation.

ETA-I agree with Brittany!

Unless an Invite got lost in the post and had to be resent if it arrives that close to the wedding then they will know they were a second thought

Just don't do it. Whoever you didn't include already had to deal with and plan around that knowledge. They understand. Turning around and going "people we like better can't make it, so you can come now" seems disingenuous, confusing, and inconsiderate of their time. You're essentially assuming they have nothing better to do than wait to see if they're allowed to come to your wedding. Let it be.

I was thinking to go and personally deliver it for them. Some of them are my friends more talk whom I've known for a long time. My wedding is backyard style, only 48 guests. It wouldn't increase costs since I already payed everything. I just don't want them to be offended.

I think it depends.

I became close with someone over the past 6 months. We originally weren't planning on inviting her and her boyfriend to the wedding because we didn't see each other as often. As it got closer and closer to the wedding, she would talk to me about it a lot even though she wasn't invited. Once I got a bunch of No responses, I knew I had open space at our venue. Even though I felt rude asking her and her boyfriend if they wanted to come, I asked anyways in person. She was so happy and excited. I gave her the invite and they are coming. I told her I felt closer to her and would love for her to join us but I understand it is very close to the wedding. She is friends with a lot of my friends as well so she is sitting with them. Was it rude for me to ask? Yea probably but I don't regret it.

We invited a few last minute people. They were honored. They came and had a great time.

Probably not. What RSVP date, do you have on the invitations? Ours was 3 weeks before the wedding, so we could not have sent any more out, 4 weeks before.

I think if you approach it in a very personal way and explain that you really have always wanted these people at your wedding but with your limited space you were forced to keep the list down (family first?), it should go alright and hopefully no feelings will be hurt. We are in the SAME boat planning the guest list...only 48 will fit in my house (backyard wedding...but rain contingency keeps us bound).

Since you have so few guests to begin with and it won't increase cost, I say go for it. But do it ASAP, like today. I'd understand a lot more if I was B listed for a 50 guests wedding than a 200 guests wedding. Its hard for anyone other than immediate family and best friends to make the cut of 50.

I would just let it be. If they decline, are you planning to invite another 5 people?

Also, why in the everlovingFACK is my avatar not showing up.

Just don't, leave it. If you wanted them there that badly they would've made the A-list. Especially considering you are having a "backyard" wedding.

I would typically say No.... But if I knew someone from work or something who was in that situation and I already KNEW they didn't have room for extra guests and had only invited family and was then personally asked to attend, I probably would (sorry for the run-on sentence!) I guess it depends on how you handle it.

Typically.. its rude. Depending on who you are thinking of inviting... it could be Ok. But be aware that the new invitees may think its odd. Unless they already KNEW the wedding was family only or something like that. It seems a bit of a difficult situation to approach. I probably wouldn't do it.

Don't do it... I have 29 people who have not RSVP from my side alone, my finacee has about 30-40 still waiting on those to come back. We were only supposed to have 72 people. I made a huge mistake but I am ready to enjoy the weekend.

The backyard is from a family friend so I am trying to be as respectful as I can and definitely keeping it under 50 people. I know it is not the best thing to do, I was just trying to weight out which one would make less damage to the friendship.

When you start your question with "I know X is rude but...." just stop. You already have your answer. B listing is rude. Don't do it. People are not desperate to attend your wedding, they won't be thrilled to no they made the second list, more likely they'll be miffed and your relationship will cool because of it. Better to just not invite them.