So, my FH and I are getting married in June of 2020. We are having a small wedding - less than 20 guests just, best friends and family. My sister will be my maid of honor and my FH's brother will be his BM. I also have 3 female best friends, one from middle school, one from high school, and one from college. If we were to have a big wedding, I would have asked to be my bridesmaids. I didn't ask because if I have four bridesmaids and my FH has four groomsmen literally half the wedding party will be standing at the altar and I think that'll make for awkward photos.
But, these girls have been my best friends for longer than I've been with my FH (nearly 7 years), and we've been talking about weddings since we were teenagers. I feel like they're sad to not be bridesmaids, one even got a bit snippy about it. Also, our wedding is in the Bahamas, we're covering the hotel rooms but they're still flying down from the northeast so I kind of feel like I need to make it "worth it" for them.
Should I ask the 3 to be bridesmaids in every sense short of standing at the altar with me or would that be lame? Or does just asking them to give toasts at the rehearsal dinner, the morning before brunch, and wedding suffice? Is there another solution I'm missing? Thank you in advance!
