Omg...what to do!

His grandma literally just passed away. I feel like you know the answer to this question already. Yes, of course you should put off planning for a little bit. Even without a family emergency, planning a wedding for such a popular month in such a short period of time is going to be difficult. Is this date important to you?

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Thanks...my gut and heart told me to just press pause. She was literally his last person...both Mom and Dad passed years ago. It was a month that he picked and favored. I just picked Labor Day because it was a 3 day weekend.

Give him some space and time. Meanwhile, you can keep moving forward with things that don't require his attention or time. When he is ready to jump back in you'll know. You could start looking at the way others have honored loved ones no longer here. I've seen some really nice ones on Pinterest.

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Definitely!

He was like, I had it all worked out in my mind where she would sit and....

I was like oh noooooooo

There is the rush to get the dates in but I do feel you should put the pause button and let him sort that out. Plus he may need to plan a funeral which is a lot of work and money as well. You can hold on to your date for now but I would not bother him with wedding planning. You should be there to support him but maybe on your own keep venue hunting and make a list for later for when he is ready. Be prepared if there needs to be a date change.

With this short of time to plan, I would not suggest waiting on choosing a venue. If you want to stick with the date you have, and not postpone the wedding, I would just choose the venue and get that locked in. Be there for your spouse- be attentive, supportive, etc. - and continue quietly planning the wedding (the things you can do on your own) without bothering him about it. You can do it on your days off, your lunch break, when FH is just hanging out watching tv, etc. The things you know he would like input on, just push those aside until he is in a better place. If you do not feel comfortable making any decisions without him, you could always just compile a list of potential vendors, decor, etc. so that when he IS ready to start planning with you again, you can pull out an organized list of vendor options & ideas and streamline the process. I did this with our wedding & my fiancé has been super grateful! Most guys don’t enjoy spending hours and hours looking through Pinterest and vendor websites LOL I did all the researching, picked out top contenders, and just presented him with those to help choose from. On the other hand, if you are not completely set on that date, you guys could always push the date back further and just hit pause on the wedding for now. Whatever you choose, good luck girl! I am so sorry you and FH are going through this.

Exactly what Cindy said! Let your fiance have some time to grieve and process his emotions. However, you and still keep planning things that don't require him to be present. I would keep searching and contacting venues regarding their availability and make some lists. Once your FH is ready to move forward in planning, he will let you know, and you can push on with what you've been working on. Planning your wedding in 7 months will be tough, but it can be done.

I would continue to plan just without his knowledge. Maybe find venues on your own that are available for your date and if you find one you love then bring it up. It's a popular time and less than 200 days away (it's my wedding date too!) so finding vendors like dj, photo, hair/makeup are going to be harder and harder to come by. It's a holiday weekend and I know most places are doing weddings friday-sunday so it's a busy time for sure.

On the bright side, you've picked a date that most bridal sites suggest not having a wedding. So there's a chance things won't book up as fast.
I'd definitely pause.
In my experience, when a loved one dies, it feels like I'm moving in slow motion and the rest of the world feels overwhelming.

My condolences to you and the family ! I do think you should take a break and let him process it and be there for him

Umm yea I agree with what the other girls said. I am getting married that weekend as well and umm I have my venues in place but I’m still super busy with planning everything. You are just going to have to go hard on planning without him for a little bit. Try and get you MOH or a bridesmaid to help you while he’s grieving.

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100% what I was going to say. Wedding planning should be pushed to the very back of your mind right now and your fiance and his family's well-being should be top priority.

Absolutely put it on pause or go look at venues alone and let him have some time.