Older brides

Girl, PLEASE!

Weddings are not just for "young" brides !!

second of all, you ARE young. early 40's is extremely young and don't let ANYONE tell you that you are "old". Stop!! I hope you have a fabulous wedding and ENJOY ALL OF IT!!

I'm also 40 and my

FH is 26 I'm 14

years older then

him but we love each other's and to me age ain't nothing but a number but my FH first time getting married and this my second marriage

Have your wedding, the one you have been dreaming of, and enjoy every second of it.

Congratulations!

I did. It was a first wedding for both of us. I was just shy of 40 and he is 46. Some people made comments about overdoing it at our ages, but our families and the people who matter most to us were really excited so that helped.

No guilt please!!! From where I sit, 40's is young, kiddo! One of my all time favorite couples included a 58 year old first time bride and a 65 year old husband.

Personally, I don't think that age should really dictate style. If you feel like having a big wedding with all the traditions, you just go for it. If that isn't what you have in mind? That's fine too, but do exactly what you want to do. Spend the amount of money that makes you comfortable and kick up your heels!

I get being practical, you are entitled to have one , sort of, impractical day in your life. Get a dress you feel wonderful in and just do it. Age is just a number

I'm only 29 and I still struggle with how I could have spent the money on something else. It's a personal decision whether it's worth it to you.

You deserve a wedding 40 or not though! Age should not impact that!

@justplaincat - good for you! Shame on those people to judge

It's fine to have the wedding of your dreams you only get one perfect wedding the 2 and 3 are just going thru the motions hopefully there will be no 2and 3 so why not do what you want

You are never too old to celebrate your love!

I'm 42, FH is 46. We've known each other for 23 years and have been together for the last 10 years. We have a 5 year old son, we have our house. I didn't *need* to get married. I've been married before and I had some of that 'been there, done that'. But on the flip side, he's never been married so why deprive him of the experience. The more I thought about it the more I realized we're celebrating OUR love!!

Plan on!!

I get where you're coming from but it shouldn't matter if your 25, 45, or 65 you deserve to have your relationship celebrated! If you want a big wedding and can afford it then go for it!

Do not feel that way! I am 38 and totally going to have my dream wedding. It's my first wedding and I want everyone I love with me on the day I get married. Nothing wrong with that!

39 and first marriage. Lots of people get married older now so I haven't really struggled with the age part. Justifying the money spent is something I struggle with all the time.

You can't take money with you. Why not have amazing experiences like marrying your best friend in front of your loved ones? Unless you're hurting financially, splurge on yourself!

I guess I can see where you're coming from, I mean it is a whole lot of money and effort for a party. However, first time bride or third time, young or "old" (you're not old my mom didn't even have me til she was 40. Women do some amazing things at different ages) the wedding you want is the wedding you should have. Don't feel guilty, enjoy your day with your love!!! People will be so happy for you

Yes there are other things we could spend money on, but if this is something you can afford and want to celebrate, you deserve to celebrate! Age doesn't matter at all. Love is for everyone.

Older? You're just a baby!

Relax, enjoy and celebrate

I am 40 too and getting married for the 1st time myself, but thats no reason not to have a wedding. Girl do it!! Maybe something smaller or NOT! If you don't your gonna wish you did!

37, first time bride. FH is 67, first time groom. [We've been together for almost a decade.]

Seriously, do whatever you want. We're skipping the DJ/dancing stuff, not because we're older, but because it isn't us. We feel lucky to have the funds, as older folks, to pay for our own rather expensive wedding without much help (my grandmother gifted me some money). The good thing about being older is that nothing makes us nervous. We're really excited about spending the day with all of our friends and family.

Thanks everyone. I think I started to freak because my parents said they would give us money and we can spend it as we chose. Either on a wedding, new car or however we like. Started to second guess myself on spending it on a wedding at my age when there are medical bills, car payments and other life stuff I should spend it on instead. But when you think about it what am I going to remember in 10 years, getting some bills payed or my special day.