OK - I need to complain!!

I will tell you what everyone keeps telling me when I get complaints about my styles for the wedding from family members. Keep in mind that it is your wedding and the only ones you have to please are you and your FH. It is important not to choke your mom 12 days before the wedding but be sure to let her know that it is your wedding and you will have it the way you want to have it. She will learn to live with it.

She is complaining to every single person she comes in contact with. I have heard this from so many people and it is getting extremely annoying. She thinks this is going to be trashy. It is not, the bikes are beautiful and will be nice and clean! My FH is so extremely excited and happy that the bikes can be in the wedding! I really don't care either way. But for who knows what reason, his father decided not to come and he is upset about this. So I want to make him happy! I just hate the crap she is doing, and can't say much at this time! But after the wedding, I will be speaking my mind!! Just don't know how to keep down my stress level before then. I am so stressed now the way it is.... she is just adding to it!

Do what you want/need to be happy. Just as your mom is... Some people aren't happy unless they're being negative. Ignore her (if you can). She is who she is, and that's not going to change. I wonder if it might be humorous, like "there she goes again!"

I wonder if it might HELP TO be humorous, like "there she goes again!"

My mom's cousin had a biker wedding. It was actually done in a very classy way though and I loved the feel of it. It was awesome because right after their vows everyone started their bikes- it was very cool and unique! Just breathe girl..12 days and you will look back on all of this and be soooo happy that you didn't cave under pressure! Just hang in there :-)!

Can you avoid your mom for the next 12 days? LOL.

Someone on here posted a couple days ago about how they told their mom she can only say things like "I agree" or "Great idea" or "that's beautiful" between now and the wedding. If you can't avoid your mom for the next 12 days then just let her know she can only say the above phrases if she is going to talk about your wedding at all...

Simply tell her that she can either come and "shut up" about everything... or she can stay at home and bitch all she wants while you have your wedding without her. Nuff said!!

I will try to avoid her as much as possible. Yesterday she called at 10:30 a.m. to ask a question. There was lots of back ground noise on my end. (I was at my daughter's karate tournament). She said to me, "Well, I see you are at a party.... so I will make this quick." Now she meant beer party. Are you FRICKEN kidding me???? It is 10:30 in the morning. And plus, I don't go to beer parties anymore. She was snippy on the phone as I explained to her where I really was. Unfricken believable!

Let her words slide off your back. I'm actually doing a wedding in June where the entire wedding party is coming down the aisle on Harleys!! I'm just bummed that they don't have one more friend with one, and I have to walk down!! I truly believe that it is those personal things that are "Just You" that make a wedding special. I'm not one for cookie cutter type weddings.... or anything else in my life.

We aren't even riding on the motorcycles. They are just going to be put by the arch and the chairs. And we are getting some pictures with them. So I truly do not understand what the big deal is!

Hi..even though i'm in as a planner...i'm speaking as a bride. My wedding is July 8th and my mom has been a mom from hell so far. I know its hard because we want our mom to be right there treating us like a princess. Sometimes that doesn't happen. Your wedding day should represent who you and your FH are...NO ONE else. I know it's easier said than done but Don't let anything or ANYONE ruin it for you. Know that this day is all about the committment you and Mr. Hubby :-) have made to one another and if you want your bikes up there when you do then that's AWESOME! Try and be kind to mom and when she starts getting crazy just simply say you know what mom...i'm getting married, i'm excited about it and i have so many things to do, i gotta get running. This is your day to shine and be who you guys are. Your wedding should be inspired by who you two are. Keep your head up...enjoy your day and be a good wifey for your man. You big the bigger person if you have to. You won't regret it

You and me both with 12 days!! yay!! Avoid her when possible but dont be rude, mom is still mom. Just take her punches, dont strss over it, I know it gets annoying, but you know what, in a few years, your gunna laugh abou twith her... So take a breather. The next time she calls you and your in a loud place, just tell yourself its not the time to talk, and dont answer her call, call her back when your in a quiet place. relax. in one ear and out the other ...remember when you were a kid, you probably did it to her then, Im sure you can do it again.

We are doing our wedding our way. Our wedding party's entrance song is going to be Thriller and I am leaning towards Witchy Woman by the Eagles. Our wedding is Halloween/Gothic theme. Its your day not hers just bite your tongue don't change anything it will all be over in 12 days.

Go the the gym and hit the punching bag real hard, that way you can take out all of your frustration and not blow up on your mom or anyone else. sorry to hear that your mom is being like that I sort of know how you are feeling my mom is starting to get a tad annoying about stuff and she just doesn't realize that i'm stressed and she is making more stressed so i'm just trying to get by these next few days

When your mom is getting really down, talk to someone who really gets your vision and is excited about it. My mother has been complaining about my wedding from the moment the ring was placed on my finger...and I was really not that excited about the wedding (don't get me wrong I'm super excited for the marriage) becuase i kept listening to her negativity but these past few days I have been talking to a few people who really are excited about my wedding...and so today when my mom called for her daily tell my why my wedding is going to be horrible session, I didn't really care near as much. I just kept thinking My uncle is super excited about my crappy vegetarian food and this it shows who we are! My photographer is excited about my wedding in my favorite city, even if my mother hates that we are having our wedding where FH and I live...

Get yourself someone who just is so excited for your wedding, and let them counteract your mother's negativity!

Hubby and I were just talking about it....he's a minister and former biker (disabled now, can't ride anymore.)

If it were us....we're ride in AND back out....or at the very least ride out afterwards....I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with what you are planning and wish I were there to help!!

Hmmmm.....anyone have a trike (3 wheeled motorcycle) for you to ride out in wth your wedding dress on?

We didn't have a Harley but we did have a full dress GoldWing and I actually put more miles on it than he did!!

Good luck with your mother...if I were in your place, my Mom would be there to help me wash the bikes and get them ready for the ceremony....my Mom is COOL! (She'll be 81 soon and she'll still get behind me on a GW!)

You will never make her totally happy if you still are planning on making yourself happy, so just do what you want and ignore her as much as possible. Lol.

Not only now do I have to deal with my mother - I have to deal with my Bitch of a sister-in-law (married to my brother). Her and I never got along and she made a rude comment on my daughter's facebook, and my daughter made one back to her. (which I am totally fine with - it was not distasteful). She is saying how bad of a mother I am and how unruly my daughter is. And her and my mother get along great. So, now I have this shit to deal with. I am so upset!!!!! THIS IS MY Fing WEDDING AND I SHOULD BE HAPPY. I can't handle this extra crap. I would love to tell sister-in-law to stay home, but if I do... then I have to deal with my mother.