Officiant wants to tell how we met -- Good idea or too personal?

We aren't including it even though our officiant asked because, well, it's honestly kind of boring. We met online, and FH doesn't want to include that I almost cancelled but yet here we are! Instead, we just chose some personal details, like the milestones we've reached while we've been together (bought a house, finished grad school, new jobs), or vague details about trials we've faced together (health scares, relocation).

Depends. How did you meet?

H and I met when I went to a sleazy bar trolling for a one night stand. That would have been a little out of place in our church wedding (side note: the priest did ask me if when I met H, I knew I'd eventually marry him. All my friends were dying).

But if you and/or H aren't comfortable with it, just tell your aunt you'd rather focus on something else. No big deal.

Why would it be embarrassing or awkward? How did you meet?

Our officiant gave the whole run-down of our relationship in his speech. It was cute.

ETA: Also, if you decide not to have her do that, write up something else for her to say. There are tons of quotes/reading/scripture/whatever-floats-your-boat online for you to use.

I think it would be cute, but it would depend on how you met. If you feel like it's part of a larger embarrassing story, then I wouldn't include it.

Just tell her that you aren't comfortable including it in the ceremony and you'd prefer to focus on your marriage vows and the future.

My officiant is super excited to tell the story of how we parted ways after high school, I went to college and he joined the military, and we reconnected over Christmas while he was on leave.

So honestly I think it depends. If it makes you uncomfortable, don't do it. If you think it adds a personal touch, then do it.

Our officiant is including personal stories. This will be at the beginning of the ceremony. He says that it catches the interest of the audience and really brings a personal element to the ceremony and I kind of like the idea. I'll write my story and FH will write his story. I'll hear FHs story for the first time and he'll hear mine that day. The stories will include how we met and then will build upon some of the things that drew us together and how we got to where we are. They'll have some funny elements, but will be sweet as well and then we'll get down to business. But everyone is different so if this makes you feel uncomfortable just let her know you'd prefer the more traditional opening with a prayer or a reading or have her come up with some sort of introduction where she talks about the meaning of marriage or something. There are a lot of examples online.

I agree with Jeanne. For me, it is also weird when the officiant obviously doesn't know the couple. It doesn't seem genuine or heartfelt.

What do you want? We usually tell that story, but then, we do this all the time, and we know how to spin a story so it's entertaining, personal but not invasive, and completely appropriate. It also fits into the ceremony and it's never awkward. PLUS, our couples see the entire script before hand so if there are elements they'd rather omit, we do it, no questions asked.

Your aunt, respectfully, may not know how to do this, and possibly you don't even want it. And if you don't, tell her you don't want it.

Most of my reviews talk about how much the guests enjoyed hearing about the couple, and we're good enough to make it seem like we've known each other forever, but if that is not you? Get rid of it. You'll be just as married at the end.

I honestly think it will depend on how you all met.

We will say something brief as we graduated in the same HS class and then reconnected like 19 years later.

My brother & SIL's officiant told the story of how they met and fell in love and it was beautiful! It meant a lot to family like my grandma who had maybe never heard the whole story (my family is from Illinois and my brother moved out to California to be with my now SIL, so my family didn't get to watch them fall in love the way her family did). It made the ceremony very personal and everyone feel like they were more included in the love story :-)

Our officiant included our story. It was a brief overview from how we met, to how we developed as a couple and then our engagement story. Several of our guests commented on how much they loved it. Even though our guests know us well (we had a smaller wedding 65 guests), not all of them knew how we met or even how we got engaged. I thought it was much more personal that doing a random reading or something.

I would think only if your story is somewhat cute and would have a PG rating. Ours would not be and I would die of embarrassment if someone where to say it in front of everyone. If you dont want it talked about just tell her that it makes you feel _____ and you would like to add _____ instead.

A good officiant has filters for embarrassing stuff.....

Having heard at one wedding about how the couple originally met for a one-night stand and just clicked, I think you are completely entitled to leave that bit out if you want to!

How we met is pretty boring. How we got together years later is really romantic. However, my super religious parents FREAKED out at the time and caused a bunch of familial drama. Everyone knows that part of the story. This is the first wedding my aunt is officiating, so I'm not sure she knows how to tell the story in a funny and appropriate way. She's going to send me the script beforehand though, so I can always change it. I'm just not sure how she could tell that story without reminding everyone there about how upset my parents were when we moved in together.

I attended a wedding last year where the officiant talked about how they met, their 10 yrs dating and their engagement. Longest ceremony ever, literally was 45 minutes.

I usually don't, but if a couple requested it I would.

I think you include it only if you want. It's YOUR ceremony.

ETA: And it really is YOUR ceremony. That is the part of the day that is for you and your FH. The reception may be about hosting guests properly, but the ceremony is about joining the two of you in marriage. You should be 100% ok with how this part of the day goes.

Does she have to include any of you two moving in together? Can she just talk about how you got together and skip that part? I was dating someone else when I originally met FH, and I anticipate our officiant will skip that lol.

I just wouldn't if there is a chance for it to go wrong. If it's cute and funny, and written by someone who has lots of experience spinning it in a positive way, great.

Here is an example: I was in my best friends wedding. She and her now husband dated 1 year, broke up for 1 year, dated for 2 and then got married. Their officiant told their story and the bride was just cringing!

He could have said, they were together, broke up but realized they were meant to be together and here we are. Instead, he talked about how they liked each other, split ways, spent a year dating around, partying, and hating each other, and then somehow decided to get back together and here we are! It was not a good vote of confidence in their wedding!