Officiant uh oh - nervous

My husband's (and now my last name) always gets mispronounced. Every letter is said K-nol-le. Most people say it like knoll or cannoli. Our officiant asked us during our meeting and phonetically spelled it out so that he would not forget. On our wedding day, he asked both of us (separately) again if he was saying it correctly. A professional officiant should not get your name wrong during the ceremony especially if you pointed out to them that it is said incorrectly a lot.

This happened to some friends of mine. I don't know if they had just met their officiant or what. But somehow "Tara" & "Rory" got turned into "Terry" & "Ror-rah". I would personally be upset.

I've known my officiant for over half my life - so it's not a concern for me. But I'd advise you to get to know them and ensure the proper pronunciation of your names.

You can meet your officiant beforehand..

It's not even a matter of meeting; it's a matter of talking to them and voicing your concerns......they don't know that your name has been butchered your whole life, they only know how you are addressed. This is coming from me, a person who is routinely addressed as "Cecilia" even though that has nothing to do with my name.

But it's always good to SEE your script (this is routine for us), make sure your name is right, and confirm it as often as you need to. I always, always, confirm everyone's name, no matter how simple, when I arrive at the ceremony, but by then we've probably talked dozens of times.

I had a number of Kelsie's (spelled in different ways, lol) last year; one weekend I had two, back to back. I didn't call any of them by the wrong name.

But that being said; if you (not you specifically, but any of you) have a name that is spelled differently than it is said or a name that is complicated in some way, make SURE you confirm that with your officiant right up till the end of aisle moment.

We don't want to screw up either.

It's not even a matter of meeting; it's a matter of talking to them and voicing your concerns......they don't know that your name has been butchered your whole life, they only know how you are addressed. This is coming from me, a person who is routinely addressed as "Cecilia" even though that has nothing to do with my name.

But it's always good to SEE your script (this is routine for us), make sure your name is right, and confirm it as often as you need to. I always, always, confirm everyone's name, no matter how simple, when I arrive at the ceremony, but by then we've probably talked dozens of times.

I had a number of Kelsie's (spelled in different ways, lol) last year; one weekend I had two, back to back. I didn't call any of them by the wrong name.

But that being said; if you (not you specifically, but any of you) have a name that is spelled differently than it is said or a name that is complicated in some way, make SURE you confirm that with your officiant right up till the end of aisle moment.

We don't want to screw up either.

FH name is Efrain pronounced F-fry-een rolling the fry. People call him Efren all the time, he doesn't correct them anymore. I'm more worried our Reverend will mis pronounce than him.

As an officiant, I generally put a post-it note on each page of the ceremony in my book, that way I get the names right. Very simple. I had a bride once with an odd pronunciation of her first name, so I wrote it out phonetically the way she pronounced it, and made sure I had the correct pronunciation memorised.

Thank you everyone!