Officiant Speech

Usually they write it based on the information you share when you meet with them.

My officiant is a pastor and he’s done weddings before. So he says he typically has a template and he sent it to us to edit to our liking. So maybe ask if they already have a template

Our officiant is close friend that has done several weddings, I think it’s great to have someone who knows you! I would imagine your officiant has a template and will write a script for you.
Our officiant wrote a script and sent it to me to make edits, which I sent back to him so he could finalize the draft. The main things I made adjustments to were the vows and ring exchange, and I wrote the entire script for the handfasting because he’s never done that before. It was important to make the ceremony personal to us, and initially I worried about him being offended by my edits, but he just wanted it to be perfect for us. Don’t be afraid to speak up if something doesn’t sound right and you want to change, remove, or add anything- it is your wedding ceremony afterward.

Our officiant was my family friend. He sent us a sample that included some things we had spoken with him about and told us to edit it the way we wanted to. We wanted to have a very minimal ceremony, so we basically just removed anything that didn't feel necessary to us. It was great! I was so glad we didn't have to come up with the whole thing on our own, but there are a ton of sample ceremonies online, so I'm sure you could find one that works for you if necessary.

My friend was our officiant and she wrote a script and shared it with us to edit.

Our officiant came up with her speech after talking to us. We had a sci fi ceremony so there wasn't anything religious in there. She did a short summary of our relationship and why were getting married. The readings were dr who quotes and star trek quotes. Our ring exchange was legend of zelda themed. Then the conclusion which we were boring on. The officiant gave us everything they were going to say 3 months in advance. We edited it if we didn't like the wording. We have her the final draft and that was it.


We are kinda at the age of we don't give a f*** about what people think and we are nerds.

My FH was the officiant for our close friends’ wedding and it was tough coming up with the script when you have never done it before!
I would at least recommend a call with you both and the officiant to discuss: what you want Included, how traditional to make it (should he ask if anyone disagrees with marriage, many people leave this out), length, level of religion inclusion, if you plan to write your own vows, any stories you want mentioned, any other speakers/readers/singers, and anything he should NOT mention (like if you met at a bar but don’t want that shared with family or something). There are generic scripts online to start with, but these things will help him make sure it is what you envision for the day!