Hi,
New to all of this wedding business so I wanted to get some feedback on this. We just had a zoom chat with our wedding officiant who we found and contacted online. She wanted to get to know us and have details for the wedding date. As the convo was coming to a close, she casually mentions that her spouse will be joining her. I pause, then say, “oh, you’re bringing your spouse?” She replies with yep, “they’re my spouse/manager.”. We say goodbye and end the call.
My partner and I are now somewhat at odds about officiant etiquette. We are paying her for her work, I assumed she would come, officiate, and head out. If her partner is coming, then I am also assuming she might want to bring their child?
The reason I’m slightly bothered by this is that our wedding (technically an elopement) is a very small and private ceremony with only people that we know well (15 people total). I don’t really like the idea of the officiant’s family staying through the ceremony, and potentially after. They’re essentially strangers to us. Am I being a jerk? What is proper etiquette for us and the officiant?
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