Hi.
My wedding is in a few weeks and my bride and I are having a disagreement about how much money to give our Pastor.
Here is the thing; I am the Youth Pastor of our Church. (Since our Church is not financially able to pay two pastors, I also work a full-time, low pay job) I work very closely with our Pastor, and I feel like "tipping" him is sort of ridiculous. In all of our budgeting and planning, we did not include an Honorarium. By adding this cost now, we're tapping into our savings.
My Wife-to-be now feels like we need to gather an Honorarium. It is tradition and he will take a lot of his time to help us with this. Also, he is sort of my boss and we don't want to offend him.
So, internet people, what are your opinions?