Officiant Getting Political

I'd leave the politics out of it.
The past year has been exhausting politically and I think everyone would rather focus on the love between you and your spouse.

I agree with Apryl. I feel like politics don't belong in a wedding ceremony. I would cut those out, regardless of if people agree or not. Unless that is a HUGE part of your relationship (like you met while volunteering on a campaign or something), it doesn't need to be in the ceremony script.

Politics do not belong at a wedding, whether the ceremony or reception.

What is being said? how in the world do politics get put into vows?

Leave the politics out of it. I have literally never been to a ceremony that touched on politics, and don’t feel that it belongs in that setting (Especially if it will upset others).

Leave politics out! They should have no part in a wedding.

There is never a reason to include political commentary at your wedding.

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He's saying that we want our marriage to run like a labor union, that we're joining forces against a cruel world. Which is something we literally said to him when we were first talking about our ceremony. And he mentions that we believe in justice for all people and that all people have value.

EDIT: excerpts from his script "“Well, what kind of marriage do you want to have?” They looked at each other and thought for a minute, and then said “basically like a labor union, but with someone you love.” Uniting together in a desperate alliance against the unstoppable force of capital - that sounds about right to me."

"Most importantly, Nate has consistently shown me how to see and regard the suffering and depth of other people’s lives: with common respect, even awe, recognizing the dignity of human beings in the face of pain, and with a genuine love of humanity."

Wow, I am so sorry that your own family doesn't believe in "justice for all people and that all people have value." That must be really painful to hear from them. I think it's completely appropriate for a wedding ceremony to reference the personal values and morals of the couple getting married and disagree that this is merely "politics."

I have heard lots of things in wedding ceremonies that I strongly disagree with (mostly in Christian ceremonies that discuss subservient wives and all non-believers going to hell), but I would never, ever mention my discomfort to the couple getting married. I say, keep the ceremony wording that reflects who you are as a couple and let your family sit in their discomfort.

Regardless of anyone’s politics, I don’t think they belong in a wedding ceremony. I’d leave them out. There’s plenty of other truths about you he can add in that won’t offend your family of other guests.

View Quoted Comment Reading this, this is more than “political”. Maybe think of a way to say this that doesn’t involve hot words that might upset your family or some guests. Maybe saying you’re excited to both have respect and equality in your marriage. Or you’re ready to be valued as equals or something would be better than “they want their married run as a labor union”

I would leave politics out of a wedding ceremony because honestly there is no need for it. He should be able to find a more wedding-appropriate way to say that.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. OP, what you posted specifically doesn't really come off as super political to me. If you are worried, I would may try to tweak that 1st part, but the 2nd doesn't sound very controversial to me at all.

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Interesting way to word it "labor union" , but i see nothing wrong with it.

Hmm maybe the officiant can tweak the wording so everyone's happy and no one's offended? Maybe something a tad less specific...."as husband and wife, I am confident they will continue fighting for what they think is right" or "one of the hallmarks of their relationship, and their marriage going forward, is equality and respect for each other...and for every human being they encounter" or something like that. Just trying to throw out some options that would still incorporate some important truths for y'all while also reducing the risks that certain politically-charged words carry. And maintaining the focus on y'all as a couple and your relationship!!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. I don’t think the issue with the wording quoted is so political but more so that it is heavy handed for a ceremony script — I think it would be better just simplified, something along what this poster is suggesting. The issue I see when you drop in that labor Union sentence is that frankly it will distract guests and take away from your story. I think it’s fine to go hard on equality and emphasize that compassion and empathy for others is part of the draw and commitment to working through life together in an equal partnership is great. For me as a guest it’s not that the labor union line is potentially offensive, just that it’s depth is a little complex for a little wedding ceremony. I’d hear it, think “wait what?” and miss the rest of the script trying to digest it. It’s great to keep it personal and include your story, but there’s a big merit to light and simple for a ceremony script

I personally would leave the politics out of it, unless it is truly something you feel that embodies you two and your relationship together

From your OP, I thought you were going to endorse a candidate or something! 🤣


I don't think a labor union is always a hot topic political issue, but it sounds super unromantic and like you're going out of your way to make a political statement out of it.
Howabout tweaking the script to say that you're joining forces as a "team" rather than "labor union"?

Politics can be touchy for everyone and should not at all be involved in a wedding. There's no reason for it.

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But the same could be said about religion and of course people should include their preferred religious elements in their weddings even if it's uncomfortable for some guests. Politics isn't just some separate thing that refers to elections. It's about one's every day values and morals, which can absolutely be relevant to getting married.