Offended guests? Is is this real life or wedding tv?

Woahhh never heard of these expectations

I have never seen these on wedding wire. In the forums or articles?


From what I've read I see a lot of "tradition says...but it's your wedding do what you want." The general consensus is that if you put people in your wedding party then cut them it ruins relationships, which is probably true.
I'm having my two best friends be bridesmaids that's it. No in laws because if you choose one you need to choose them all (in this family)
We are inviting friends and family only, and just under 100 people.
Everyone does have a role in my wedding. Eat, drink, and be happy. Also use the damn photo booth I'm paying for. 😂
But seriously WW community has soany different opinions, that's what's nice about it, you can see other people's POV.

I’ve never seen anyone with these expectations in my years on WeddingWire.

I've never seen this extreme side of offense before on ww.

So many threads I have read say "this person will be offended and hurt if I don't include them as a bridesmaid" or "being a guest is not good enough because they have to be a personal assistant or a reader, etc" or "I'm not close to X, Y, Z but my family says they have to be invited or they won't speak to me again" and variations of those. They're pretty common themes on the forums.

I feel like this type of generalization is a bit dismissive of people’s very real and valid concerns about the intricacies of their relationships which we, as the responders, can’t possibly know completely about in a post.


I think a lot of people are seeking advice to navigate what very well could be sticky situations regarding relationships because they want to be considerate and delicate in how they go about handling it.

IDK - it seems like we are living in a society that is perpetually offended by EVERYTHING. If you feel like this is a person that you want to give your energy to then address their feelings up front and honestly but also be aware they may still remain offended no matter what you say or do.

Huh, I haven't seen anyone with these expectations on WW and I'd consider myself to be pretty active on the forums

I am always puzzled by posts like, I am having three MOH because if I chose just one other people will be mad ( i believe them, i do not understand such competitiveness and ego.
It seems strange when a wedding has 6-12 bridesmaids, and so many children some have nothing to do but carry signs. And bride says how upset this sister and that Groomsman's wife are that she does not want someone pulling their under 12 month babes in a wagon??? In my experience of real life the only time girls are dying to be bridesmaids is at the same ages when they are dying to go to the prom. But even in the last month on WW, a couple of older twenties or early 30's women have been so hurt and offended some one friend did not choose them and I want to say, get a life. When is the last time you invited 10 friends to dinner or a party in your home? Not once in 8 years, then why do you expect invitations from others. I do think all the wedding shows have built up a sense of entitlement in a lot of people. And no sense that social things are reciprocal.

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I agree with this

That sounds like TV.

While we do have some posts like that, I think they are more the exception, than the rule. There are thousands of people who get married every year, and only a few compelled to post here about drama - so drama gets over represented.

Quite honestly, if you are having issues like that in your life, either someone is toxic, or someone is not mature enough to be getting married.

TWO people threw drama for our wedding. One, my mother, was expected, contained, and she is out of our lives. The second, was SIL. Our BP mostly shielded me from it, I know MIL was *less than pleased* with her behavior, and I made it pretty clear to DH that I no longer care to try to get close to SIL, as she has made *zero* effort to have a relationship with me. She is also 9 years younger than me, and I think this plays quite a lot into the dynamic. My entire reaction to her antics was, "well, nearly everyone in our BP is in her industry, so... that's her reputation, not mine."

Anyone threatening to dissolve relationships over a one day affair... needs to find better things to do with their time.