# of guests vs # people in wedding party

I think this is just a common sense thing... if you are only inviting 25 people to your ceremony you probably shouldn't have a bridal party of 10

Like Kait said. I am personally a fan of small BP's; less stress, less $$, less cat herding.

Kait nailed it.

I 100% agree with Kait. If you're having a small wedding, have a small wedding party. I'm inviting 200, and I have 6 BMs.

How many people are you inviting?

I have 4 bridesmaids... Seems like kind of a lot now for 50ish guests but eh. I'm happy.

I only had 4 for 150 guests and it was perfect size.

I have three bm, a junior bm and flower girl. Don't care I want them all in it. 44 guests

Sanity > cat herding for sure! I'm somewhere between 0 and 2 (it'll either be none, or my sister and bff), my guy is squarely in the no attendants camp.

However many you want, but again small wedding should equal small bridal party

I have a HUGE bridal party compared to my number of guests! FH and I each have 3 friends we've known since middle school so they're practically siblings. I wasn't going to have a BP, but I couldn't envision my wedding without them, so the decision was made. We have 4 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen, and 38 people attending total. Our guests are: parents, siblings+spouses, grandparents, BP+spouses, and us.

I think you should have as many or as few as you want. If you're having a small wedding, but have a lot of sisters or family you want in the wedding, they could walk the aisle and take a seat in the front row with just the MOH standing up with you.

We have 6 each and will have about 100 guests. Ours is way to big. They all have been amazing but if I was to do it again I would have had 2 each

We are having...gulp...10 each, with ~250 guests. I love every one of my girls and am excited to have them stand with me, but...yeah. Definitely think of the herding cats aspect that Celia brought up if you are debating going big.

I disagree that there should be a "guest to bridal party ratio". I do agree that your bridal party should be the people that are nearest and dearest to you. But if you want a destination wedding with 20 people, and 10 of them are close to you and your FH, then have all 10 of them (can be 6 and 4, 7 and 3, 5 and 5)....

Whatever you do, don't pick someone to be in your bridal party, just to "fill in a quota", and also don't eliminate someone from your bridal party, because you're having "small wedding", and it would look too uneven to have more people standing up with you than in the seats....

I have 230 guests. Started out with 6 bridesmaids and two flower girls and 6 groomsmen, 1 Jr groomsmen, 1 ring bearer. Now I'm down to 4 bridesmaids

I think people with small weddings typically have small bridal parties because they are closer with fewer people, hence the small wedding.

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I'm having 3 BMs/3 GM for a wedding guest of about 100 total. I've been in the BP of a wedding which had around 60 guests - 1 in 5 guests (12 people!) were in the BP - that felt a little imbalanced, but bride and groom were happy!

@annakay DH and I had a small wedding with 40 guests, not because we're not close with people but because we wanted it to be more intimate and host those 40 people properly. You're logic is a little ridiculous and insulting.

OP with our guest total in mind I had 3 BM's, my two sisters and my brother's GF; while DH had 5 GM. It's what ever you want.

I will say that being a part of a bridal party is a lot to ask of people, and you also shouldn't feel pressure to ask a "fringe" friend because your other friends will be a part of said BP.

The size of your wedding party doesn't have to coincide with amount of guest you have. I am coming up on my first wedding anniversary on April 18th, 2016 and we had 120 guests. We just had my 2 kids, and my best friend as best man and my wife just had her sister as maid of honor..

Considers the 2-5 closest people in your life and your good..

Congrats and good luck