# of adults # of kids on the RSVP

Just write on your invitations who you are inviting. What type of meal are you having? Like mine is a seated dinner and we are not inviting kids other than the ones in our BP so my invitations have their names on it. Then the RSVP has a place for names and then under it has ____ out of ____ decline or accept (two lines). That way I can write in the spaces we've saved for them because my family has a billion children so I want them to see we only have 2 seats saved for the parents. Then under that is their meal choices with the kids meal saying "12 and under". They just have to initial by their choice. You can still do that for buffets. Just skip the meal selection portion.

Names on the envelopes. I'm allowing kids but not putting anything special. If they ask if they can come I'll say sure.

I'm going to address the envelope with something like "The Smith family" and then on the RSVP card it will say something like "4 seats have been reserved in your honor" so they know kids are invited. I then have a space for them to initial by their meal choices. Here's what I came up with.

@Happy in Hawaii

That's good, but read this.

Hahaha I thought of that too, but for saving space on the card I figured people would be able to figure out we're not serving children as a meal haha!

Our cards haven't been printed yet, but we might not put "vegetarian" and "child" on there because the way our contract works is that if we get 79 people that ask for chicken and 1 person that orders beef, since the beef option is more expensive we have to pay the price for beef for 80 people. So I really don't want like 30 people ordering a vegetarian dish but we're paying the cost of a beef dish.

In that case we'll just put "Please notify us of any food allergies or if you require a child's meal or a vegetarian option on the back" or something similar.

We aren't doing a plated meal except for kids and those with allergies. We addressed our envelopes to the family, had a spot to list how many kids attending and what ages, and a spot on the back saying list names of guests attending and any allergies that should be known.

Your FH is funny. An individual invite for each person. That's crazy talk. But now that I think about it I might do that for my niece. She is the only child on my side.

This is what we are doing since we are inviting kids and I want to make it clear that kids are invited.

If the parents don't want their kids in that atmosphere then it is up to them to bring them or find a sitter. You don't need to dictate if it's a place for them or not. Just invite them. And yes, if you are inviting some kids, you need to invite all kids to save yourself future family feuds.