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Savvy October 2019

Odd question

Katherine, on August 14, 2019 at 10:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17
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Hi! So I was thinking of an odd situation that I honestly don’t know the answer to. In our wedding, most of our groomsmen and a couple of the bridesmaids will be bringing their SO as their date and traveling at least two hours to get to the wedding. Thinking through the logistics of the morning of the wedding while we’re getting ready, like during hair/makeup, getting pictures before the ceremony, etc. what would these SO’s do duding this time? I’ve personally never come across this before and want to make sure that we are not treating our guests poorly.

Do I need to provide an area at the venue for these SO’s to hang out while the wedding party does its thing? Am I worrying about something that I shouldn’t? Input would be super appreciated, thanks!

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Latest activity by Katherine, on August 15, 2019 at 2:06 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Some of my wedding party's significant others didn't come until the wedding started and some just followed around hanging out.
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    My husband's friend's SO went out to the mall to get their nails and makeup done and got some coffee. My friend's boyfriends just hung out at the hotel watching TV. I don't think you have to provide anything structured. If you want to text them nice local restaurants, cafes, or anything that'd be nice but definitely not required

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    My FH just hung out at our hotel when I was in a wedding this summer. He didn't mind.
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  • Mary
    Expert July 2019
    Mary ·
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    We did not have anything special arranged for the SOs. We also had a DW and most of them enjoyed themselves with a lazy morning by the beach or pool before rolling in with the other wedding guests. One of my BMs was very envious of her husband's relaxing morning. 😉
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    My bridal party's SOs just arrived with the rest of the guests. It's a pretty common occurrence for only one part of a couple is in the wedding and the other is a regular guest.
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  • Fmv
    Super October 2020
    Fmv ·
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    I was a bridesmaid in my brothers wedding and my fiance was not in the wedding. He just hungout at the hotel and explored the town a bit and met my family at the venue
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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    I don’t think you need to provide them with entertainment or somewhere to hang out. They’re adults and can figure it out on their own. If anything, make some suggestions of fun and inexpensive things they could do. While it would be exceptionally thoughtful for you to plan something for them, I just don’t see it as necessary.
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·
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    I wouldn't worry about it - they should be able to hang around the hotel or such for a few hours. You could give them a bag with some snacks or something like that if you want to be extra accommodating, but I don't really think it's necessary.

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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
    Nicole ·
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    I don't think you need to plan to do anything special for them. They should understand that their SO will be busy with day-of activities and should be able to keep themselves entertained for a few hours.

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    The SO's of daughter & SIL's wedding party just showed up at the venue in time for the ceremony to begin. Really the only thing that was an issue/consideration was coordinating transportation for the wedding party before the ceremony. I know most of the BM's got dropped off where they were getting ready (so SO's would have the cars), but one of them did have her car and drove the others from where they got ready to the venue. The guys got ready somewhere else, so I'm not sure about them, but I'd guess they did something similar -- got dropped off/carpooled/etc.

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    Brittany ·
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    We had our wedding at a hotel venue. We paid to have the bridal party stay over night with us in the hotel. The venue was 1-2 hours from where everyone lived. 3 of the significant others came to the rehearsal. 2 stayed with family nearby and one stayed at the hotel. The three of them got along well at the rehearsal so they met up at the hotel bar before the ceremony. 2 other significant others just showed up the day of. So I'd say you don't need to provide anything special for significant others. They'll be fine.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Are they not staying in a hotel? That's what all of our wedding party SOs did?

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    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    They can just hang out at the hotel or wherever they’re staying.
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  • Melissa
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    Melissa ·
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    They are adults and can decide how to occupy their time. My best friend’s fiancé is going to most likely play a round of golf as the wedding isn’t until 5 and we are leaving for hair and makeup around 9
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    Savvy October 2019
    Katherine ·
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    The closest hotel is 30 minutes away from the venue and most of the groomsmen live 1.5-2 hours away. They don’t know if they will be staying at the hotel since it’s not much further to drive home. So that’s mainly what brought on the concern.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Are they going to be drinking? Our blocked hotel was 30 minutes from the venue. We did provide transportation for guests but people could have ubered or taken a taxi if they wanted. I can't imagine driving 1.5-2 hours if they are drinking.

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    Savvy October 2019
    Katherine ·
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    There will be beer and wine and service will stop 30 mins prior to the end of the night.
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