Halloween is my thing. I don't dress up like I use to, but it's still a month long celebration for me. However, this whole wedding planning H E L L has completely ruined the month of October for me. I'm usually excited for October, but this year I'm just flat out stressed & pissed. Luckily, my wedding is October 26, so I'll have time to unwind before the actual holiday...and hopefully I won't be permanently scarred from the whole experience. But...I needed a place to vent where other people wouldn't be tired of hearing about wedding stuff & would more than likely understand how I'm feeling...so here it goes.
Yesterday my cousin (also my Man of Honor) calls to tell me that there will be someone turning up to the wedding uninvited as a surprise to both me & my mom...which isn't a surprise...that's an INCONVENIENCE! I finally pry it out of him that it's an older cousin from my mom's side that my aunt invited. Now, this person was on the guest list when we had 200+ guest, but got cut when we decided to go a lot smaller. I love this cousin, and even call her Aunty, & actually wouldn't mind having her there, but the month of the wedding isn't the time to be adding people to the guest list. And the part that really set me off was the fact that my actual aunt just took it upon herself to invite someone to MY wedding...a wedding she's not paying for & is barely invited to herself. She doesn't have a plus 1 or anything like that...she just said "Hey! Come to the wedding!" THEN, my friend from HS who kind of invited herself last month (and the only reason I said yes was b/c I didn't have any friends from HS who were able to actually make it), sent me a message saying that she's crashing at another HS friend's house for the wedding & he wants to know if he can be her plus 1. I DIDN'T GIVE YOU A PLUS 1!!!!! And they're not the only ones who've done this type of thing...but we'd be here all day if I went into that...but to give you an idea: Basically, we started w/ a guest list of 200+, decided to have a smaller, intimate ceremony w/ 30 people (immediate family only, no kids), & a bigger reception w/ ~80 people (kids included). We ended up w/ a guest list of 100 people. 
On top of the extra guests stress, we still have about 17 people who haven't RSVPed (and a huge chunk didn't bother to use the room block we set up...good thing I don't have to pay a fee for that). Even w/ only 17 days to go, I'm honestly considering doing a seating arrangement just so the people who show up unannounced or uninvited know for a fact they are unannounced or uninvited.
Bottom line...wedding planning has stressed me A L L T H E W A Y O U T ! !
I just keep reminding myself that no matter what happens, October 26 will be amazing & beautiful & none of this will matter...and I also won't have to deal w/ any of these people at least until Thanksgiving...maybe even Christmas 
Not really looking for advice...just needed a place to vent. Please feel free to vent along with me! 
