October 2021 wedding?

Yes! Not sending save the dates nor invitations. Our parents will be the only guests

We plan to have a mini ceremony outside then dine outside with our parents. No bridal party, no decorations and I'll be wearing a regulat dress instead of a wedding gown.

I had a family friend have a very frugal mini ceremony before covid. Here are some pics:

We are full out wedding planning but we picked a venue with an outdoor space, if the reception needs to be outdoors. Our hope is that all healthcare workers, elderly, and those with other conditions will be vaccinated by September. We are kind of hoping for the best and will come up with back up plans as it gets closer. So much changes so quickly and it will be years until we get to the new normal that we didn’t want to wait.

We rescheduled our wedding from this Fall to the beginning of November 2021, and we’re planning full speed ahead! We have already reduced our guest list to 40-50 people (Which has been a blessing in disguise, because it is really what I wanted in the first place). I have also spoken to all my vendors and they are all on board with rescheduling again if we need to. If it came to that though, I think we would probably just elope with our parents and wedding party (if safe enough to do so). We are definitely hopeful that things will return to some semblance of normal by next fall though, and are planning accordingly. We have already sent out our new save the dates.

I’m a bit earlier, September, but planning worst case scenario. We’re being married in a Catholic Church which has been surprisingly helpful for making backup plans to split up the ceremony & reception. We’ve made our “super COVID” list (9 people, immediate family only), & the “COVID” list (22 people, family, wedding party, & godparents). If there are any restrictions, we’ll do a ceremony with one of those two COVID lists & postpone the big ~150 person party for 1-2 years.


Currently torn on save the dates at all, & currently leaning no (although it changes every day, haha).

We were shppose to get married in two weeks on December 6th. The new date that we chose is now December 12th 2021. At this time we are still planning our normal traditional wedding in hopes by this time next year we can at least have a first dance and a dinner with all of our loved ones. If we are unable to do that we have discussed a back up plan with just us going to the justice of the peace to officially get married and postpone the wedding until we are able to have it. I still plan on sending out save the dates for our expected December 12th date. It never hurts to have a back up plan!

Our wedding was postponed from 10.10.2020 to 10.7.2021. My fiancé and I have a guest list of 100. We sent our save the dates for 2020 in March 2020 then sent new date cards in July 2020 for 2021.


Today we we actually talking about evaluating our list in the even gatherings are still limited; we are thinking doing a 75 person guest list & 50 person guest list. And for some reason if it’s 10 people, we already know that’s just immediate family.

Yes I would definitely have a plan b because who knows what next year will look like

We are October 2021 after postponing from this October. Since we already postponed once, we are just going with the flow and planning as normal right now with zero plans of postponing anything. I refuse to stress myself out over it for the next 10 months when it’s out my control. Our plan B would be just less people if there’s still restrictions. But we are just hoping for the best. We will work with whatever we have to when the time comes. But that is still many many months away so I’m honestly just not worrying about it right now until I’m forced to.

We are November 2021 and while it’s in the back of my mind, I’m not stressing it right now. So much has changed month to month that I don’t know that we can ever actually be prepared. We are still sending out save the dates to our 145 guests, probably with a note that if covid is still going on and there are restrictions we will provide a video link so people can still watch. We still have so much time so I’m really hoping all is settled a little bit more by then.

I work at a college and our nursing staff is pretty on top of things concerning the pandemic. They have said that it won't likely be until late summer 2021 until a vaccine is widely available, and then that pandemic precautions (at least some of them) will likely need to stay in place until closer to the end of 2021. This is because even when the vaccine does become available certain populations will be prioritized to get it first, if the vaccine requires multiple doses (like the Pfizer vaccine) that will take time, and then immunity will need to build after the final dose. It will take some time to inoculate everyone and depending on the vaccine used, people may not even be "in the clear" until at least a couple months after their first shot. With a vaccine with 90-95% efficacy, at least 70% of the population will need to be vaccinated and develop antibodies before the population achieves herd immunity and pandemic precautions can be relaxed and life can eventually return to normal.

I think it would be wise to have a Plan B for any wedding planned in 2021. Our wedding was supposed to be in May 2020, but we eloped and postponed our bigger event for June 2021. Our venue has already reached out to us to let us know they don't anticipate being able to host normal weddings at all in 2021, and encouraged us to consider rescheduling for 2022. We are now considering whether to postpone again and choose a specific date in 2022 to aim for, or whether to just cancel and give up on our dream wedding.

We are planning for October 17, 2021 for our big wedding with about 100-150 guests. I want to cut it down to 100-125 but we planned a minimony for our original anniversary date of April 15, 2021 and we'll only have about 30-40 people. I'm staying positive about next year and doing our minimony in April just in case something causes us to not do the big wedding. October 2021 is a good time away to stay positive so I'm going to.

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Hi Kari,

We had very similar experiences! Our original wedding was supposed to be May of this year and we postponed to November. It was supposed to be 250+ people and once August rolled around we knew that wasn't going to be feasible, so we instead opted for a micro wedding (20 people) at a new location and got married earlier this month, which was gorgeous and so special. We had our "big party" planned for October of 2021 but actually just decided to cancel it this week. I am so torn on it all because I was certain I wanted to cancel and be done with it (since 2021 is still a question mark) but now that's it's canceled I'm on the fence about still wanting some sort of anniversary celebration with a larger group of family and friends (even if it's not the big, extravagant party we originally planned). So many changes and emotions, but congratulations on your marriage!

Hi! Our wedding is October 9th, 2021. So far we are planning everything as normal, but having a plan B option as well. Right now we are only having 50 guests and the venue is all outdoors. If we have to, we are okay with cutting the guest list to meet the guidelines. If it ends up just being close family that can attend, we will be totally okay with that! Good luck with your planning from a fellow October 2021 bride!

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I love this idea! Giving an out in case by way of saying may need to provide a video link if COVID still going on