Oct 17, 2020 Wedding

Girl I feel you. We are supposed to get married on the same day & we were told we all Have to wear masks etc if the state doesn’t change their orders. So, we don’t know what to do!

Date twins! We are having a 50 person wedding in Indiana. Will include masks and spread-out tables, but we are allowed to have a dance floor. I feel comfortable with our safety measures

My original date was 11/14/2020 and we are in AZ, getting married here.


We had the same plan you mentioned- " keep moving forward like things are still happening" but at some point we had to stop and make a decision, ultimately. That point came for us when I had a freak out over save-the-dates, it was to the point where we either sent them out or didn't send them at all. We didn't officially cancel with our venue at the time, but agreed not to send save the dates and if things improved enough we would send out invitations at the last possible date (invitations go out 6 - 8 weeks prior so at the 6 week mark) and call it good.
However, as emails rolled in from vendors about meeting up I knew it was time to officially inform them and accept that we were postponing. For a multitude of reasons, but the biggest being that even if we could have our wedding on our date, it would not be the same wedding I had always envisioned (it would be under 30 people, social distancing, masks, and very stressful for us) and at that rate we didn't even want to have that wedding. We wanted to have our originally planned event. So, we are tentatively planning for 11/13 next year. Will things be better? Who knows, but the odds are favorable to this year and we can re-evaluate again at that time.
It really is up to you and your fiance whether you want to push ahead. There is a likelihood that you will not be able to have the event at all, or that it must be under a certain number, or maybe things will finally be a bit better by then.. but even if things are a bit better, I would still expect to have masks, a limited number of people, and possibly social distancing. If this is fine and acceptable to you, I say push ahead. It not... Then you may have to consider postponing. If possible, you could wait until the last possible minute

View Quoted Comment This is all so frustrating. If we move our date til March most of our vendors won’t be available

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If possible, you could wait till the last possible minute like I suggested. You could wait until the 6-week mark where you would have to decide whether to send out invitations or not, but that would probably depend on your vendors and venue and the policies they have in place.

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I feel your pain! I stopped booking in late February because I was on a covid response team, so I only had two set-in-stone vendors, but neither will be able to reschedule to the spring. So off I go to get married! I'm going to have a celebration for the people who couldn't come next year in October, when I feel like this will all just be over.

View Quoted Comment I would however most of our guest are from NY and need to know ahead of time. I think you made the most sense, if we can’t have the wedding we visioned then to just postpone it. Thank you so much for your advice

Best wishes and hope everything improves and works in your favor.

View Quoted Comment Thank you dear

I live in NY and my fiancé's parents live in AZ, and other family members in other hot spot states. Seeing as guests are limited to about half if not a 3rd od what we want, we are postponing ours.
It honeslty sucks and its extremely frustrating that it's like this, but we want the wedding we have been planning for. We don't want to be restricted ans have our guests uncomfortable with being there, afraid they might catch the virus.
You could always have a small wedding on the actual date and do a reception or anniversary wedding next year too with all the planned guests. Some people are interested in that option also, especially if you're set on getting married this year!

We're getting married on 10/10 just the week before you and our wedding is planned for the Florida Keys, you know the "other hotspot" - we're still full steam ahead, we're planning to give our (50) guests masks as an option unless it's mandatory for outdoors. I keep reading the states reopening plans and group allotments and so far nothing has changed from May despite the increasing numbers.

I will be really surprised if states shut down again, I think these excess numbers are a positive sign for things to "normalize" by mid-September (the new norm - masks and such). I think you have to just trust and believe or wait it out a few more weeks to see if you should make any changes.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the feedback, so if the reception is outside are they required to wear a mask?

View Quoted Comment Yeah I think we will postpone until next Oct, thank you so much

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According to the County website states the following:

Monroe County requires all persons over the age of six to wear a facial covering whenever away from their home and unable to engage in social distancing. Every person over the age of six who is away from his or her residence shall carry a face-covering capable of immediate use.

The ordinance requires operators and employees of business establishments to ensure customers comply within the establishment. A face covering MUST cover the nose and mouth and may include a face mask, homemade mask, or other cloth, silk, or linen covering, such as a scarf, bandana, handkerchief, or other similar cloth covering. There is an exception for those seated at a restaurant,

Exception: A lodging establishment guest when inside of the lodging unit including but not limited to a hotel room, motel room, vacation rental unit, timeshare unit, or similar unit.

So, will they consider the Tiki Hut (no walls) a lodging unit "rental" or restaurant? - It's too early to tell, but we'll be prepared either way. - Not to mention it's Brunch from 8 am - 11 am - people will be hungry... LOL

Ours Is The Same Date In VA-60 Guests. We're Still Having It, Wont Postpone At All. The Guests Will Have To Wear Masks But Thats The Only Requirement Right Now. We're just Going With The Flow. We Will Be Married And Enjoy The Day Regardless

That's so difficult because people coming from NY will have to quarantine for 2 weeks upon their return or face a $2k fine, so most of them will probably not be able to come due to that law. Plus, you'll face all the restrictions in AZ. It's a big ask to ask them to take the risk of traveling to a hot spot and then have to take (most likely non-paid) time off after they get back. Have you spoken to the NY guests about it?

View Quoted Comment No we have not discussed it with them. We are aware of both sides.

View Quoted Comment You're very welcome and best wishes! I understand how difficult it is.

I’m getting married 10/30/2020 and I’m in NY. Not everything is even fully opened yet and people are being reckless. We face a shut down again if people don’t start doing what they should and they aren’t. Going to bars in mass crowds and no masks and stuff and I’m in the Hudson Valley. NYC is much worse. I’m allowed to go on with my wedding but under very strict restrictions right now meaning possibly not even allowed some of the Normal decorations like guestbooks and stuff because they get touched too much before cleaned. Vendors don’t have answers on exactly what guidelines to follow making them resort to the most strict guidelines and some are just doing what they want and now getting in trouble. Multiple people have traveled without being asked to fill out papers or to self isolate so my guess is that eventually when this gets out of hand again, they will go through records and fine people and I really do hope they jump on that soon. As someone from NY, I don’t expect my out of state guests to be able to
Make it due to travel hot spots and I really don’t think people should be risking this travel
Thing. When the government has no choice, things like that will blow back in people’s faces, especially when they start needing all the money gave away back. There could be a lot of potential fines that involve not only your guests but you and your vendors and venue. You also can’t promise that all these people won’t come back to NY and self isolate for 14 days or whatever it is or even get tested & as someone who had to cut 35 people from her wedding and accept a ton of changes like no dancing and stuff. It’s extremely upsetting and painful when I’m following the rules and accepting and adjusting to the guidelines since I don’t want to postpone, when there’s people who are being reckless and causing the people who follow rules to be punished too when they can’t have their wedding because on a second wave or whatever. I really would suggest postponing the wedding if you have a lot of guests you want from other states. I won’t be surprised to be honest that they won’t shut flying down again if it gets out of control which would also be a disaster to deal with. Just my opinion from someone in NY

Our wedding is 10/31 in Indiana. My venue is open with reduced capacity...so I’m cutting the guest list from 70 to 50...and we will have a virtual option. Tables will be spread out and masks available (I just ordered masks for the wedding party Sunday). We will have a small dance floor for the “standard” dances. I’m in regular contact with my venue and other vendors...but it’s still super stressful