ny December 2020 Brides - Stress Out Together

December 12th bride!! I’m not in NY, I’m in PA. But, we asked our venue to place a soft hold on a back up date in December of 2021 and they did!! Worth a try!!😊

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I've seen people doing the "soft hold". How did that work for you? Extra deposit?

View Quoted Comment It worked great!! No extra deposit and no problems so far

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Nice! Good luck with everything And hopefully we are making backup plans for no reason.

View Quoted Comment Thanks, you too!!😊 My fiancé thinks I’m crazy for even 2nd guessing things but you just never know at this point

Hi, and welcome!

I'm so sorry you're so stressed.

Best advice we have is: Have a Plan B, be flexible, and don't make decisions until you *have* to.

We don't really know what December is going to look like, but I think anything in the NYC metro area is going to be the slowest to open up, so try to breathe... and keep an eye on the phases.

Good luck!

Im september in ny im waiting till july but today im feeling greatttt because the virus is still on the decline and my region may be able to open next week or so. long island isnt too far off i think 5/7 benchmarks were met. i cant imagine youll have to wait longer than mid june to start reopening. december is a longgg way away anyway can happen and i think things are moving in a positive direction overall. only time will tell but i would wait to make a decision !! maybe august or september u can decide. i will wait till july to decide for me

View Quoted Comment I think you will be fine in September! Still very nice weather. I’m worrying extra hard about December because of the second wave talk and people saying it will be even worse. I have lots of out of state, immune compromised (including my fiancé), and older people on my guest list. About 15 people in my family already said they’re not comfortable traveling and being in a large group (we have about 170 people invited), so I’m feeling more and more at a loss. My fiancé and his family are pushing to postpone and my family is pushing to keep the date. I’m stuck in the middle losing my mind. I’m the one that’s done all the planning and been handling contracts.
Also, to top it off my fiancé is having major surgery that has already been postponed due to the virus. And they say he needs 6 months to heal and go through physical therapy before he’s back to normal. If the surgery doesn’t happen by early June he’ll likely be in no shape for a December wedding. Right now they said it’s “looking like around June 19” for the surgery but they’ll “be in touch”.
I’m so conflicted. Part of me also wants to postpone because I’m getting superstitious that this year is jinxed and I don’t want my wedding associated with it lol but that’s the least of my worries.

Not NY but December 4th TX bride here! I'm sorry you're stressed, I know this has put a lot of people in a panic no matter how close or far out their weddings are. My heart goes out to every bride right now dealing with this. We are moving forward with planning right now as we are trying to keep positive but we're also trying to come up with a backup plan just in case. Once we get closer to July-September, we'll have a better idea what arrangements we'll need to make. Never thought to ask our venue about a "soft hold" so we might look into that.

View Quoted Comment Go with your gut instincts. if its not going to mentally kill you to postpone then why not. for me i think id be too depressed.

Albany NY. Originally 7/17/20 but now looking to postpone to December. Yes, second wave is possible, but we don’t want to wait until next year. I 100% recommend a soft hold on a future date. We waited until maybe a month ago to put a soft hold on and stuck to 2020, only Thursdays and Sundays left. Now we were open to 2021, but the only Friday left was Good Friday.

We’re putting a hold on a date next June 2021 Incase December starts looking way too shaky. Lots of out of town family members (were in NY with family coming across the country from CA and places between) and also many older and immune compromised family.
It’s so much to consider. I’m not in any real rush to get married in 2020. Were both going on 36, but we got engaged thanksgiving 2019, so I don’t have that I’ve been waiting forever feeling. Yet. I’m sure if we have to wait until next June I will!

I would think everything will be back to normal by December. Is it because you’re worried about a second wave? I still wouldn’t move a December wedding, postponing is a real pain and something I never wouldve done if I wasn’t forced to. Definitely wait til October then postpone into 2021 if you need to.