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ny August 2020 Wedding Cancelation

Samantha, on May 6, 2020 at 12:21 PM Posted in New York Planning 1 14
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Hi everyone!
So like many August brides my fiance and I have gone back and forth considering canceling or postponing our wedding. We ultimatley decided that it was best for our family and out of town guests that we dont hold our wedding in August. Im a Registered Nurse and have been exposed to people with Covid-19. We live in NY and our venue is on Long Island. Granted, Im perfectly okay, I still wouldnt want my guests to feel uncomfortable or uneasy about coming nor would I want the safety of my family and friends to be jeopardized because of a large crowd. Our govenor has not indicated what a guest count would look like come August, and has outlined phased reopening. Our venue would likely fall in the phase 3 category but that includes them coming up with a plan where social distancing is made possible and may require staff to wear masks. Not my ideal wedding for sure. I guess my questions really come down to if any of you have canceled, did you get refunded, did the venue attempt to hold u reaponsible for the remainder of payments, how did you go about canceling? Postponing is not something we want do, being in our 30's and waiting another another year to start our life or attempt to start a family, feels like forever. Thoughts??

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Latest activity by Lindsay, on June 2, 2020 at 12:54 PM
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    Dedicated September 2020
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    I’m september- Ny bride too. I refuse to postpone even though im younger and in no rush to have kids. based on cuomos instructions i think phase 3 will happen around july for some of the harder hit areas. id be happy even if they allow 50 guests and i dont even care if they have to wear masks!
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  • Samantha
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Yeah, i def dont want to postpone. I've already sent out save the dates a while back. With a guest count of 50, id feel pretty terrible telling some family theyre not invited while others are. Idk...its all so confusing and frustrating. I just want to get married and be done with it. Its not even fun or exciting anymore and I cant imagine people wearing masks at a wedding. Super lost right now... I hope everything works out for you guys though..
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    Dedicated September 2020
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    Thanks. i just keep reminding myself its about us not about the party... even though the party is the fun part
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  • Daniela
    Dedicated August 2020
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    We are getting married in Ulster county and our original date was May 30 - we postponed to August 22. We have 100 guests but are willing to cut it to 50 close friends and family if we need to. I’m almost 33 and want to start trying for babies this year. We have been engaged almost two years so the thought of waiting ANOTHER year to start a family (we have been together 6 years) is not preferable. At the end of the day we will see what the governor says we can do. We’re cautiously hopeful but I’m definitely stressed out.

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  • Samantha
    Dedicated August 2020
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    Yeah we're in a similar boat. It just sucks waiting and waiting to find out what we're doing next. So stressful. Also, i havent bought invitations yet because I dont kno whats going on and my fiance and groomsmen havent gotten their attire either. Everything is going to be so last minute it feels rushed. I feel like id rather cancel, save the money, and rent a house somewhere for the weekend and invite just immediate family and celebrate that way. At least I'll know what Im doing. I just dont know what would happen with the venue if I do cancel... 🤷‍♀️
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  • Daniela
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    Have you reached out to your vendor and venue to ask about options? Before I postponed I started a conversation to see what I was going to have to deal with and it gave me a little peace to know I had options. Maybe they'll be able to give you some.guidance and understanding of what's available to you if you choose to postpone or cancel? Good luck Smiley kiss hopefully we won't have to make any major changes by then
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  • Samantha
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I actually just emailed them today asking what we'd be responsible for should we decide to cancel. I did speak with them a month ago and as for postponing, they said that I would have that option in July..they didnt mention canceling at the time and I wasnt even thinking of it then. I just wouldnt feel good about holding a wedding event and God forbid one of my guests get sick. It feels selfish and irresponsible to me. I know we plan for years for this day but idkk.. ughhh this sucks. Also, I was reading Cuomos reopening guidelines and it specifically says that customers and employees would be required to wear masks after a buisness re-opens. I cant imagine a wedding where people are wearing masks. Sounds horrible. I wear one for work all day and thats bad enough. Wear one for my wedding!!? I cant imagine....
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  • Margaret
    Beginner August 2020
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    I am an August NJ bride and couldn’t agree more. Everything will end up being rushed even IF things are reopened. NJ just announced stay home order till June 7th. There’s no way the state would get to a Phase 3 scenario by August. This all sucks and is tough to accept. All the joy is gone. Thank you for your work being on the front lines. You deserve to have this special day even more so! 😢
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  • Samantha
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    🙏🙏 Hoping for some clarity for us both, sooner than later.
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  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
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    This is so tough! First, thank you for your work - and please stay safe!

    Secondly... yeah, it's all about having a Plan B, being flexible, and postponing decisions until you *have* to make them. The further we get into this, I think the more venues will come up with plans, have better responses... or shut down. (*crossing fingers this doesn't happen*)

    A lot of places aren't going to give your deposits back, but if you can delay payments for a bit, you'll likely get more clarity the farther along we get.

    Good luck!

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  • Ashley
    Savvy November 2020
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    Samantha, I'm in the same position as you with a Long Island wedding in August. What venue are you having yours at? Our venue has asked us to wait till Juneish as they are currently scheduling the June and early July weddings.

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  • Samantha
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    Same! We're at Bellport Country Club. They said they were going to touch base with us again next week but idk...I still want my wedding but not sure it would be worth the risk and the disappointment if masks are to be worn. How about you, are you in suffolk county aswell?
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  • Samantha
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    Thank you! Yah Im def not making any payments until I know whats going on...
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  • Lindsay
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    I’m from Rockland county was getting married in. New windsor Ny in July and I cancelled my venue just like many of you I didn’t want to postpone. We’re not in a rush for kids but it was more of the stress uncertainty and financial reasons. We have other goals we want to accomplish by next year as well we still want to celebrate with friends and family when it’s safer but just in a different way the only thing my venue offered me was a credit from what I already paid to use up until 2 years. Pretty bummed about it hopefully I can use it in the future but if not I looked at it as the money I have lost is less then the money I would have put in. All the best to you this is not an easy time for any bride I hope this experience leads us to the happiest marriages!
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