NWR:Living with Parents until married!

Well.... We're in our 30's, so we just bought our first house together, and his parents just moved in with us a week ago. If they could rent their first apt in Arizona after the wedding... That would be amazing lol.

Sorry to hear you're going to have a full house. However, congrats on buying a house together!! I wish we were ready to do that!

I moved in with FH when I was 19, so it's been five years of us living together. My friend and her DH rented an apartment 1 month prior to the wedding and he moved into to get it all set up and she stayed at her parents. It was nice because their home was all set and ready for them to start their marriage in.

Well we have lived in an apartment together the last two years, but will be buying a house right before the wedding. We are aiming to close a few months before the wedding so that it won't be extremely stressful doing both at the same time. Our apartment hunt was pretty stressful and move in dates varied and we had to wait 3 months for availability on the one we wanted. For that reason, I would plan at least 2-3 months ahead of your wedding!

Thanks @rachel! The apartment we are looking at has a 4 month waiting list so I'm thinking I will put the application in with enough time to maybe rent it a month or so before the wedding.

Thanks @Michelle!

Hi Alana, both of us are living with our parents at the moment. He is finishing up med school and I moved back home in order to pay for the wedding of our dreams. We will move into an apartment together in July/August. I believe we will narrow down the choices by April.

@christine we are both with our parents also because we are both in school. I'll be graduating in May with my masters so we should have a definite answer by then.

Growing up I always thought I would live with my parents forever. Well it isn't fun anymore lol we want our own place so bad. We are hoping to move out before we get married but if not we want to move before our honeymoon. Getting married in October and honeymooning in May. No clue if we want a house or apartment.

@jecca I know what you mean! I am ready to move out also! I have never lived away from my parents and I think it's past time! We need our own space!

I went straight from my parents house at 20 to my ex husbands place when we married. Do not recommend that. I didn't know the first thing about taking care of a home. This time around...I'm back at home, lol. But I've been married for 4 years, living with roommates for 2 years, and lived on my own for 1 year. Now I'm back with the family because my lease was up and we don't believe in living together before marriage but it didn't make sense to sign a 4 month lease. So far...it's not going too bad. My moms annoying but I love her. Plus I'm never really home. And I get to see my niece and nephew more. And no rent! Okay actually it's pretty great. Haha. But I can't wait to have my own home again and to build a life with FH.

As far as what we're doing after, FH already has an apartment and I moved a ton of stuff in to it already. I definitely do not want to stress of moving right after the wedding so I'm just slowly moving stuff over. Then for the last 2 weeks before the wedding he's going to stay with a friend so I can get completely moved in. That way when we're back from our honeymoon we don't have to worry about any of it.

Honestly, I can't imagine going straight from living with my parents to being married. Even by the time I got married the first time, I'd lived in a dorm for two years, lived by myself for a year, lived in a house with a couple of housemates for a year, and lived with the groom for two years. Having experience living on my own definitely made the transition to living with a boyfriend and then spouse easier.

We have been living together since I was 19 so 5 years. My FIL owns a house that he used to rent but has been letting us live in it and just pay the utilities while we where in school and getting started. Now that where married we have begun the process of purchasing a house!! I say do whatever works for your situation. I personally would never have gotten married if we hadn't lived together but that is my preference.

We moved in almost two years ago, and about a year prior to getting engaged. It was really important to me that we live together before marriage.

I moved in with FH about 4 months after being together and we lived with his mom for about 11 months and that was terrible we have now been in our Apartment for 6 months and it definitely a lot better but we prefer a bigger space. We will be moving into a house in April when our lease on the apartment is up. If i would have waited until after we were married i would have felt completely overwhelmed knowing how a person lives is a big determination of the person for me because i like to do things certain ways and i want to know if they agree and if out living styles will collide

I didn't live at home after 19 and we moved in together like...8 months before the wedding but my parents didn't live together before their wedding and they closed on their house a month ahead of time. My dad moved in and got things set up before my mom moved in. I would definitely give yourselves enough time to get everything set up. Even if no one's living there, it'd be fun to have a month or so to move in and do some decorating together ahead of time.

I am at the moment, but I lived on my own for 8 years before moving home. When FH and I graduated we were both in limbo a bit. He had just finished med school, but hadn't gotten a residency right away and was going to be applying for the next year. I had finished off two degrees, but had no job prospects so we both moved home. He ended up finding a research job and I found a great 1 year position, but by the time we were both financially able to rent an apartment he had a residency lined up and was going to be moving out of the country within a few months.

So I stayed at home. After the wedding I will be moving to Iowa to join him. I would have moved when he did, but it is much easier visa-wise after you are married.

And yes, living at home is hard. There are benefits, but I cannot wait to leave again.

We moved in together after dating for about a year, but we have decided to keep separate bedrooms until the wedding.

Side story: FH actually suggested that we move in together about 3 months into our relationship. I totally panicked! His reasoning was really logical though - we'd make great roommates. We both like to keep the apartment clean, we like to keep the utility costs low, and we eat dinner together every night anyways. The reason he suggested it so early was because he needed to re-sign his lease that month and, since we live in a college town, that means you need to sign a lease about 6-8 months before you actually intend to move somewhere. I'm so glad that I agreed to move in with him. He's my favorite roommate and we do really well living together.

Thanks for all of the insight guys! Unfortunately, I haven't had the opportunity to live away from home since I've been in school so long! However, I am only 21 so I am not freaking out too much but I am really ready to move out! When my fiancé and I started dating almost three years ago, he was living away from home so we were able to have our own space for about 6 months. We had a small window where we were able to see what each other's habits were a little bit. Now, we both live at home but he spends many nights with me at my parents house, (separate rooms) so I kind of have an idea of what it's like living with him. However, I get what you ladies are saying about it being completely different once you officially move in together. Hopefully, we can rent the apartment a few months before the wedding if our finances allow. We're not totally against moving in before marriage, we were just staying at home to save money.