NWR- wearing engagement ring?

I've always worn my engagement ring to job interviews. IDK how many interviewers ever even noticed it cuz no one said anything. IDK if it has impacted my job search but i've never heard of that being an issue. My FH has worked in HR and recruiting for 20 years and never said it could be an issue. Where did you read these articles? I've read plenty of articles on interview tips and not one of them said anything about companies not wanting to hire women who are engaged.

One thing I do advise is not to mention your wedding. It's over a year away and this job may not a last that long. If the interviewer notices your ring and says something you can tell them when the wedding is but change subject after that. stay on track talking about the job.

I only interview perhaps 5 or 6 people per year so I am not an expert by any means. Personally, I couldn't even tell you what the person wore let alone what they had on their fingers. I judge by skills and answers to industry related questions, everything else HR can figure out.

My wife has me trained, I only judge handbags and shoes. lol

@WWMP - well, I guess next time I interview I'll have a nice handbag lol

I'm interested to know where these statistics come from!

@Kiera One of the articles was through LinkedIn, written by an executive recruiter named Bruce Hurwitz.

My wedding actually isn't for another two years (the date on my WW profile is incorrect and I haven't had the time to change it yet).

I don't think this is accurate at all... I don't even look at peoples hands when I am interviewing. Plus this would be a pretty big discrimination suit.

@WWMP Haha thanks. Good to know!

I quickly just read his LinkedIn post and wow. Personally, if I'm interviewing for a job that's apparently judging me based on the size of the ring I'm wearing, it's not somewhere I'm going to enjoy working. I want to surround myself with people that care more about the work than how I dress myself. However, I can understand if someone desperately needs a job might be looking for some advice on how to get a leg up.

ETA: Here's the article for anyone that wants to read it:

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/when-interviewing-job-lose-ring-bruce-hurwitz/?trk=mp-reader-card

It is up to you how you want to present yourself, no employer can not hire you under that premise though. It would be highly illegal.

So I understand this. I selectively wear my Apple Watch the job interviews; sometimes I want to seem more down-to-earth, and other times I want to show that I have money.

I've never not worn my engagement ring to an interview because of that, but my ring isn't flashy at all. Additionally, for most of the interviews I've been on, the interviewer knew about me beforehand -- I work in digital marketing/journalism, and I keep a blog that includes FH on it. So they usually know I'm engaged before I go in.

I think it's really your call, but do you really want to work somewhere that would judge you based on your ring anyway?

Hoping for the best for you!

"And, if you don't have one, but got engaged by signing a pre-nup, find a way to let male interviewers know that. They'll respect you. (Women may as well, but I'm not certain that this is the case.)"

This is just boiling my blood.

@Criz O. The article made me furious too. I would hope that it's not true either. If it were some random article I would overlook it but I came across it on LinkedIn and was surprised that they would have allowed this to be posted.

@FutureMrsR Thank you! You make a valid point, I appreciate it.

@Mrs. Fall Bride Thank you! I do want to wear my ring and after reading all the comments, I most likely will wear it!

@T - that's what I was thinking to. Maybe just someone posting their thoughts, not a full blown article. Man. I truly wish your interview goes well whether you decide to wear the ring or not.

I've heard this I think it's the dumbest f*cking thing ever. I agree, if they judge you on that, then you DON'T want to be there. I will say, I had a young, male boss who brought up my wedding and engagement more than I did or wanted to. It was so annoying and judgey and I left shortly after (there were a lot of other reasons too).

Somewhat related: FH does not wear an engagement ring but DID mention in his interview a few months ago that he was engaged. He said that the lady interviewing him asked questions about the wedding and made it seem like it was a sign of dedication (to a prospective job) on FH's part. Meaning that he would be committed to the job because he would likely want to earn money for an upcoming wedding, honeymoon, house, etc. It was surprising how much the woman was interested in wedding details but ultimately he got the job.

Sorry that didn't help at all. But I'd definitely wear your ring. A place that's going to potentially not hire you because of the size of your diamond is probably not a place worth working, IMO.

@Criz O. Thank you! I appreciate it. I will wear my ring. Personally I feel like I would be more confident wearing it because it's a reminder of my FH. So if anything it'll calm my nerves!

This is a horribly sexist idea. How do they know you didnt buy that ring yourself? or that its even real?

I would wear my ring anyway. I am confident enough in my skills and ability to not be intimated by one sexist asshole on linkedin

@Erin F. Wow you make an interesting point based on your FH's experience! Actually that was very helpful!

@WWMP - Thank you for the "judging purses and shoes" comment. I got a good laugh out of that one!

I personally would wear my ring to an interview because I look about 12 years old. Thank you Mom for your incredible genes, but sometime they are a disadvantage. I find that people assume I am older because I am wearing a ring.

Though I dont believe this is a 'good reason' not to wear your engagement ring, per HR rules theyre not allowed to ask you questions about your status or plans to have children etc. In some instances (especially with men running the roost - sad but true) you might be judged if they notice only an engagement ring and not the wedding ring. If you feel like you could be impacted by this judgement you could leave them at home. If you feel like youre good (my last interview was with a former boss so they knew my status anyway).