NWR: My uncle had a stroke

Damned if you do and damned if you don't. You did what you thought was right, and now his daughter is advised, it's in her hands. Don't beat yourself up and stay strong and support her.

Thanks reggae princess. I'm staying out of it.

The Future Mrs Jackson, you did the right thing by 1. Contacting his daughter. And 2. Contacting the VA. Especially the VA. Sometimes it takes awhile to get their benefits clarified and in effect.

A Psalm of David. The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters. He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name's sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever. Psalm 27

My uncle (in his late 40s) had a few strokes very close together and had to be re-taught how to read and walk, etc. As of now, it has been a few years since his last stroke. He isn't allowed to drive. Sometimes out of nowhere he just starts screaming at my aunt and then stops randomly and acts like it never happened. I have only been around him once since it all happened since they live several states away and can not afford to ever come out here. He seemed fine but kept getting lost in the conversation and couldn't find words easily. But is doing fairly good considering 3 years ago when my cousin (his daughter) wanted to get married, they rushed to do a small ceremony with them because they thought he wouldn't make it in time. So they had a reception 1 year later to celebrate with family, and he was okay enough to come. But my aunt (his wife) just found out she has heart issues and probably needs a pacemaker. My cousin (their daughter) had a cervical cancer scare this year, but it looks like they got it all out in time. It's just a sad situation. They're pretty broke since he can't work and he finally got approved to get disability even though he has been out of work for years since his first few strokes. And my cousin is a private in-home teacher so she and her husband don't make enough money to get a $100k loan for a house and she does what she can to help with their bills.

Hopefully it's just this one stroke. I think it's best to stay out of it and send cards every so often. Families like to butcher people who try to help because they want the spotlight. Good luck.

Thanks BunnyLove you always give good advice and words of encouragement. Kathleen I'm sorry about your family and their problems too. He has had a stroke before and I believe a heart attack, but again I'm not that close to him. During his last heart attack he actually checked his self out of the hospital. One of his nurses is a vet also and after talking to him there is a 50 percent chance he will make it out of the surgery. Of course this is unofficial since he wasn't suppose to tell me, but I'm not telling the rest of my family besides my sister who is a vet.