NWR: I started a new job and I hate it!

Is your name Nate? Just kidding! We have a new guy at work and I feel like I should start taking bets on when he is going to quit. I think you should definitely stick it out a little longer. Once you learn the ropes and adjust to your new environment, you might enjoy it.

My dad gave me this advice when I went to grad school: "If you are miserable, try to stick it out for a semester. If that's mediocre, wait the academic year. If you're miserable then, you aren't supposed to be there."

I don't suggest you wait a year, but maybe a month or 6 weeks and see if things improve?

Starting a new job, even one you know you like, is super hard. It takes at LEAST three months to get your feet most places, and a year to really know whether or not its the job or being new. While I can't tell you whether or not its the job, or you, or just being new, just know that there are lots of people who felt exactly like you do and it ended up working out. Take a deep breath and just keep pushing forward. My guess is the more the people around you see you stick it out and learn, the more they'll come to respect you. You got this!

I'm so glad you posted this topic. I started a new job recently. Although I don't hate it I'm going to take this advice and stick it out.

I can't count the number of times I cried when I started my current job. I stuck it out and it's fine now. Just give it time, I'm sure you will catch on

Give it time. I think the worst part of starting a new job is feeling completely clueless and not knowing how to do anything. It crushes your confidence and makes the job feel impossible. Five years ago I switched careers and went from a job that I literally knew EVERYTHING to knowing less than nothing. It was awful and I cried too but with time I figured out my niche.

Yes! This happened to me a few years ago. I tried to be positive and write off my uneasy feelings as just being unfamiliar with things, but I learned pretty quickly that the job/company was not the right fit for me. I came home and cried almost every day for a month. I felt like my work was inconsequential and meaningless (it was). I felt completely replaceable (I was). And I felt like my career was put on hold (it was). I ended up leaving after 3 months and crediting it as a learning experience.

My advice is to take stock of what is making you unhappy. Is this job leading you to where you want to go professionally? Are you uncomfortable because you feel out of place or unfamiliar with the people and way things are done? Are you feeling inspired by the people you work with and the work you do? I think you need to determine whether it's a learning curve/comfort thing or a self-worth, inspiration thing. The former will work itself out in time; the latter can have serious consequences on your mental health and personal and professional development. With all the time spent at work, it needs to be a supportive, positive place.

I started a new job in October and I also hate the process of being new and feeling uncertain and having to ask so many questions. I immediately didn't like my new job either, 9 months later I still don't love it but it's not as bad as it was at first. I decided to give it a full year and see how I feel in a couple months. Plus it looks better on a resume to stay at least a year

I'd wait it out for a bit. It sounds like some of what's overwhelming you is just being new and not knowing what's going on, which is overwhelming for anyone at any job. If you still hate it after like two months, start looking elsewhere and chalk it up to a learning experience.

Been there, done that and hated the job! eventually got fired, but cried every night because I hated it. Only two jobs in my life have I ever gone home and cried and felt like poop every single day. Needless to say I didn't last that long at those jobs. Stick it out but sometimes you just know it isn't a good fit and that's ok. Best of luck OP.

I'm a teacher and cried every single night during the first 2 months of my first year teaching. I felt inadequate, overwhelmed, and just plain exhausted. I stuck it out for my students. A year later, I'm starting my second year with nothing but joy and excitement. Give it time! Like PP said, if you're still miserable after a few months, move on. Edited for typos

I honestly don't know what jobs provide training anymore! I feel like I hear this all the time, and have experienced it, in many industries. Definitely stick out for as long as you can and bring YOUR gifts to the table to try to strengthen the company. That is why people get hired, to bring their A game, and make it better, not just settle with what has always been done.

If after 6 mos - 1 year, you find it toxic and its affecting your life negatively, peace out. Who you are is not what you do, but I think you have to give it a chance!

It's been 3 days. Too quick to judge. Give it atleast 3 months because by then you should know what to do. Use the following 3 months to either find ways to fix your experience or find a new job if you're still stressed to the point you're crying.

Everybody has been new, somewhere. And you are brand spanking new. Maybe have a sit down at week 1, and line out what your boss's expectations are. The only way you'll succeed is if you know what you're shooting for. Make a plan, carry it out. You'll be fine. If you legit don't fit, that's ok. Keep your resume brushed up and your networking eyes open.

Don't give up on it yet! Sounds like sticking it out and finding your place will end up being good for you. Having a challenging job it good and in the end it'll make your stronger. Also, don't be afraid to speak up if you don't know something.

I agree with lynnja. Take some deep breaths and ride it out. It would be awful to toss something away that could have been amazing.

Thanks for the support y'all! I went in today and things felt a little better...had something to actually work on, so I think that helped distract from the awkwardness and panic of just being overwhelmed by information. Just wish I could fast forward 3 months or so to know how I really feel.

I also just came off of a stint of 3 month's unemployment while we moved to a new city and found jobs, so I'm definitely going to have to stick it out...no way I'm going back on the job market lol.

Girl I totally get it. I was hired for a job I was completely under qualified for. Literally the first 3 months was me learning how to do the job without fucking everything up royally...and it's a company of 3 people so I had no where to hide.

I'm 18 months in now and I love it so much and I'm so glad the partners took a chance on me, even though there were more qualified applicants who applied for my job.

Being out of our comfort zone and making mistakes is how we learn.

My suggestion: be honest about what you know and what you don't know. You were hired for a reason so unless you lied about your skills or qualifications, they will understand that you don't know everything about the industry or about the job. Maybe being kinder to yourself and allowing yourself to not know as much as some others will be take off some pressure and allow you to enjoy what you are doing (which will help you learn...or at least make it more fun)

Continue to look for opportunities to learn more and find things you love about your job, because I'm sure there are lots!

I agree with everyone else. At least give it 3-6 months to learn the company, people, processes, and politics. If you stay positive and still really hate it after 6 months, then maybe it's not the right place for you. You just have consider what it is you don't like or are uncomfortable with -- whether it's the people, the job, or the business.

For example, I work in sales proposals and am currently on my second job in this industry. When I started, I always felt extremely uncomfortable and hated where I was working. I ended up getting laid off in a big wave of lay offs and freaked out, even though I hated the job (although I was secretly relieved). I got my current job shortly after and love it, doing the exact same thing but for a different company. I realized what I really hated and what was making me uncomfortable was the people I was working with, who were cliquey and catty and never really let me in. The people I work with now are great and really took the time to help me get up to speed and respect me. That made all the difference, and now I'm thankful I got laid off from my other job. I'd probably still be there, totally miserable, had that not happened.

So, just take some time, stick it out for awhile, and see if anything changes. If not, you need to decide for yourself what exactly about it makes you hate it and re-evaluate from there.

I just started a new job too, just three weeks ago. It's been a real adjustment for me. FH just keeps reminding me that starting a new job and adapting to a new culture takes time. That, plus my anxiety (I have anxiety disorder and ptsd) makes it even more difficult for me.

I'm going to tell you something similar. 1- if they didn't think you were suited for this job and had good taste they would not have hired you. 2- it takes a while to adjust to a new company culture. 3- you should not have to cry about work. Give it another two to three weeks and if you're still miserable, GTFO.