NWR: Brother caught wife cheating

I'm not really sure there is a lot you can do... Honestly inviting him out with you and your FH just reminds him of what he's lost, and that probably hurts. Maybe just ask if there's something you two could do together, because your brother and sister, and try to get him to talk?

Just let him know you're concerned, but if he doesn't want to talk, let it go. Have a fun time with just him. It would probably help him take his mind off things.

I am sorry! He is going to have to go through some tough things and its not going to be easy, no matter what you do. All you really can do is let him know that you are there to talk if he needs it. Maybe your FH and his friends can have a guys night out or something (NOT to hook up just eat wings and watch a game or something). The FH can ask him to stay the night and go to church in the AM since he will be there already. Has he said or done anything to make you think he would commit suicide?

I don't think there's any particular advice you can give him. It's a terrible betrayal and people deal with it in different ways. But it's certainly not healthy to bottle up all the negative emotions.

Does he have any friends he hangs out with? Anybody else he may share with? I would offer support and tell him you're there for him if he ever wants to talk.

Damn that's messed up. Like PP there's not much YOU can do. THo honestly, there's things he can do. Is his wife seriously not letting him see the kids, how? Is she hiding them, taking them out of the house when he comes in? They are married, until there is some sort of court order, she has no right to do this. He could go to the police because she has no legal grounds to keep him from seeing them.

If he wants to leave her he should also start the process of a separation, unless he's trying to figure out if he wants to stay.

All you can really do is be there for him to hang out w/surround him with friends & family.

Ok I have two responses one as the counselor- All you can do is be your brother's rock because this form betrayl is certainly not one that a person can recover from easily and also he needs to get a great lawyer one that will make sure that she pays for it. Especially for the simple fact that she is keeping the kids from her. I just think that is just wrong

As a sister- I have to beat the brakes off that harlot especially for keeping my brother away from his kids. That's just unforgivable and on their anniversary that says something about her as a person. Like you just didnt care when all she had to do is be up front. Women like that make it hard for good women to find a good man

That sucks! The very same thing happened to my brother about 10 years ago, on his birthday. His wife (now ex) came home and simply said " I dont love you anymore" after only a year of marriage and admitted to cheating with her ex-boyfriend. He showed up on my doorstep sobbing. It broke my heart to watch him go through that. He went through a period after that where he partied ALOT, I think just to keep his mind off it and numb the pain. Thank God they didn't have any children together. He came out ok and just remarried in June. I was very worried about him, but from my experience all you can do is make sure he know you are all there to support him and let him know that things will all be OK in the end. As ugly as things can get, life will get better.

As Masquerade said, he has the same amount of rights to the children as his wife since they were married. I think spending time with his kids would be good for him and he needs to seek professional advice from a lawyer or go to the police right away.

As everyone else said just be there for him and when he's ready to talk about things he will. Let him know you will help in any way you can, ask him to go places with you guys but don't push things. My son is kinda going through the same thing, his wife of just two years just told him that she wanted out of their marriage for simply no real reason other than she can no longer give him what he wants. It came out of the blue to him, they weren't fighting or arguing. We just let him talk about when he wants and if he wants. But that's about all you can do. But in your case he does need to get some paperwork filed so that he can see those kids. Those kids need to know that their father is still there for them, that their father still loves them.

After he caught her, she came home and moved her things out of the house. The kids were being watched by her mother at the time of everything going down. She moved in with her mother, so the kids just stayed there. He has filed for divorce. His wife *not referring to her as SIL ANYMORE* truly has the coldest soul I have ever met. He honestly treated her like a princess and worked so hard for his family.