Number of bridesmaids

Only you can decide that. Keep in mind that 10 bridesmaids means 10 gifts, 10 bouquets, 20 people at the rehearsal dinner and wedding, etc.

I think that the headaches of having anymore than 4 isn’t worth it. I have 4 and kicked my MOH out, replaced her with someone and all is well.

Why is it that you want 10 girls in your bridal party? Is the question you need to ask yourself.

Is it because you have tons of friends and sisters and want to add them? I am sure that they would understand if you didn’t include them all... I’d hope so anyway.

View Quoted Comment Some other people have also told me that it’s stressful to have that many but I just don’t understand what is stressful about it I guess.

Will they all fit at the altar?

View Quoted Comment We’re getting married on the beach so there’s endless room

View Quoted Comment You have a bunch of personalities that might not all be good together. As well as each girl
thinking THEY know what is best for you, them and your wedding. This means they will try and dictate, even if we’ll intentioned, what they wear, decor, etc.

You also have flowers for each girl to buy, and a gift of Thanks- maybe proposal box too, dresses and shoes/jewelry to try and get bought- by them and or you.... Not to mention nails, hair and makeup!

Then you you have the bachelorette party, bridal shower, dress selection & fittings that you will then be THE ONE who has to coordinate, and placate, the entire gang.

It CAN be fun to have them, but truly think: “Can I see this person NOT being there when I get ready?” As you close your eyes, and if they aren’t right there, don’t include them, as hard as that might be.

You want ant to do whatever you can to DEstress not add to it, potentially.

I have eight because I have been in all their weddings and two sisters. It cost so much money and head ache to get everyone to agree and to have everyone on the same page. I wish I would have had a smaller bridal party. And the guys are completely a pain and we are two weeks out and our last groomsmen just got his suit jacket for the wedding. It just causes stress.

There's no set cutoff number that equates to too few or too many.

If you have 10 people in your life that you sincerely want to honor with that position, that's perfectly fine.

As PPs mentioned, just be aware that if you have a large party, there are things that go along with that, depending on the other things that you're doing (e.g., getting ready space, ceremony space, reception table space, transportation, bouquets, gifts, etc.). Things can also get more expensive than just multiplying things x10 -- for hair and makeup artists, for example, if you have over X amount of people, they may add an upcharge for needing an assistant. Just something to think about/be prepared for.

I had 10! It wasn’t stressful at all and I had no issues with any of them but it was expensive so keep that in mind.

I only have 5. Wanted more but preferred to spend the money on the wedding. So far I've bought them all personalized gowns & has costed over $270. Just depends how much u are willing or can afford to pay for them.

I think it is but at the same time if that's how many close friends you've got to stand by you, that's amazing

I have 3 but they are all very easy going and were easy to deal with. My FSIL had 4 and had a difficult time getting them to all agree, so I think a major factor depends on everyones personalities. Also keep in mind if you're requiring them to have a certain hairstyle/makeup/nails, that's a cost that typically falls on the bride (if you're not requiring it, that obviously changes). Those are things I would personally think about before making any decisions. Good luck!

I think it's too many just because coordinating everyone and trying to plan how things are going to go like the bridal shower, bachelorette party, and rehearsal could be stressful with 10 personalities and your own wants when it comes to those things.

I personally would never have 10 bridesmaids.
That is alot of people to plan around. 10 bouquets, 10 gifts, 10 opinions and people to deal with. Plus day of the wedding when getting hair and makeup would he insane. It would take hours and hours.

The number of guests comes into account too. You don't want 10 bridesmaids when only 50 people are attending.
I went to wedding with 10 bridesmaids and 10 groomsmen. I was the only guest under the age of 30 in the audience because I was friends with the groom 🤣 The rest of the guests were all family.

I think 10 is too many to try to wrangle through dress buying, bachelorette, bridal shower, dresses, shoes, HMU, jewelry, gifts, etc. it would just be too much for me. But then I’m going to the opposite extreme-1 MOH, 1 BM.

View Quoted Comment It’s stressful because there are different agendas, personalities, and problems.

I had a Bridesmaid that VOLUNTEERED to be in my Bridal Party. IMO, she wanted to be seen. However, the day is about the couple, not the Bridal Party,

First, she neglected to select a 👗, but she just never could seem to do what I needed her to do.

Then, she was too busy trying to plan and execute her own Wedding because (IMO) she was trying to get married before the other 2 of us (in our group of 3) because she was engaged before us. She had been engaged for 4-5 years at that time.

Since I like to have a plan, a replacement was lined up so that I’d have an alternate already.

She stopped speaking to me and refused to discuss it. Then, our department was laid off.

I didn’t invite her and do NOT regret the decision.

Yesterday was wonderful.

There were a few hiccups, but we made it through successfully.

I did have 2 uninvited guests that KNEW they had NOT been invited. So, I will be dealing with that later.

Congratulations and 🍀‼️

Oh, 10 is too many.

You only need those that will encourage and support you when things get tough.

You want people that fully understand the concept and value of marriage to be by your side. Not someone that is only there to party or look good in a 💃. These people will comfort you during your times of sorrow, not just celebrate with you when there’s 🍾🥂.

This means not having someone just because they’re your Cousin, Sister, or even someone who’s Wedding you participated in.

I don’t think you need someone in your bridal party just because you were in theirs. Relationships change and every wedding is different, I have been in 4 weddings and three of those brides will not be in my wedding party. If you truly can’t imagine getting married without them standing with you, you’re having a large wedding, and you don’t mind the extra money and coordination you’ll have to do then go ahead. Otherwise, I’d scale back. I’d also keep in mind how many close friends your FS has. Though an uneven wedding party isn’t a problem (I’m having 4 to FH’s 2 attendants), if your FS only has 2 close friends then it will likely look a bit off.

I have 18 🤦🏾‍♀️
mall of them are very important to me. I hope it’s not too much drama