now they want to participate?!

"Thanks, but we've got that under control." "It's taken care of, thanks." "Thanks for the offer, but it's already handled."

Your feelings are definitely valid, especially considering your previous posts about this family and this situation. They haven't been involved at all up until now, right? Like you and their son weren't even planning a wedding?

So, I can understand you feeling some type of way now, when they are kind of swooping in at the 11th hour trying to be heroes or something. Like their presence is going to make this wedding a grand affair. Nope. I would be as polite as possible, but give them nothing. I mean, if you want help with anything, that's fine. But I know you've got this under control, and you don't really need them. If you want to make a nice gesture to your future in-laws, then maybe you could find something little that you don't care that much about, and give it to them to run with. But for them to come in now, and try to change things you've already decided on, nope. Not having that.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with that. Do what my mom always advised me to do when dealing with these kinds of people: Kill 'em with kindness! Meaning, you can turn down their every suggestion, just do it with as sweet a smile as you can muster. Good luck!!

As hard as it might be, kill them with kindness but be very firm that your decisions are made and not up for negotiation. It's annoying how they're trying to run the show, but don't let them!

Of course your feelings are valid, it's your wedding! And it's frustrating that in all this time they haven't shown interest until now. Be polite and tell them you guys have made up your minds and have a certain vision, although you appreciate the input those ideas don't really work with the plans you've made. Maybe have him tell them since they're his parents. It might not seem as off-putting if it puts it gently to them. Find something you might need their help with, I'm sure they'd appreciate being involved and it would lighten your load a bit.

Nope I definitely don't think you're being a brat! You have every right to be upset and kind of put off by their suggestions. They haven't offered help or suggestions in the past 1 1/2 years, so it's kind of unnecessary now that it's so close to your big day. And it's kind of rude at this point. You guys have figured everything out and know what you want at this point. Their suggestions now just seem kind of like they're trying to steamroll you guys. I guess it's nice of them to offer. Just relax and do things your way, who cares what anyone else thinks?! Enjoy your day and the weeks leading up to it!!