November brides - what are you doing?

Haven’t yet, but I’m trying to hold of till July 1st. international flights are also involved. I feel like I’ll make my decision in the next couple weeks, it’s just nagging at me and Just want to feel happy and the stress and sadness is taking away from that.

I have mostly stayed optimist but it’s been a hard day. The second wave will come. But when? Vaccine will take a year. Is yours local? How are things where you are?

We live in coastal Virginia and are scheduled for November 21st. Currently we’re planning as normal but I’ve been mulling everything over daily. I won’t make any decisions to postpone until September because no one knows what the fall will look like.

View Quoted Comment Hi Michelle, I completely understand especially with international flights involved! Ours is local (in PA) but I’m worried about everything. Our governor just announced all PA counties will go into a “yellow phase” June 5th, but there’s still a lot of restrictions. It’s so hard to say. I feel like I want to be excited for November, but I’m not right now. How about where you are?

View Quoted Comment Hi Mindy, I’ve been mulling over everything daily too. It’s so tough, and you’re right, who knows what the fall will look like at this point.

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Yes it’s is so tough to feel excited right now. Canada is very cautious. We have entered phase one of reopen. I’m on Vancouver island, and our cases are minimal. However the East side of of country is not doing great. There has been a steady increase in cases in Ontario since the reopening. There is talk of reverting back to a lock down, at least back east. The second wave is coming,and China may already be seeing theirs. The problem is the asymptotic people. The new cases in China are indicating that they can pass on the virus now for 3 weeks not just 2. If people don’t know they are sick, how many people get infected in a 2-3 week period. I wish the ability to test everyone was an option. Test the whole population and quarantine all that are sick for 3 weeks! That or a vaccine is the only way. I am going to start the process next week of at least gathering alternative dates from my resort. I really don’t want to move to nov 2021. I’d rather may 2021.

I’m December 6th, and I am currently hoping for the best but really looking at how the current reopening is going. I am worried that it’s opening up too fast and that there will be an increase of cases in the next few weeks which will set us back.
My wedding is in California, but in a county that hasn’t been hit much so restrictions are lifting faster than in other counties. I am worried though because my extended family is out of country and worried that the borders will be closed for the rest of the year.
My FH and I will get married no matter what in December, I’m hoping we don’t have to scale down the wedding too much but open to the idea if we need to. I originally wanted a smaller wedding anyways but I do want to celebrate with my friends and family.I am happy that I’ve gotten most of my planning done. I need Transportation to be figured out (between venue and hotel for guests) but I have booked all my vendors and already have my dress. So for now I have stopped planning as I think I can wait to buy decorations until later on in the early fall. I recommend having a Plan B or at least an idea regarding a Plan B

We are in the process of postponing to November 2021. I just worry that things are opening up quickly before the virus was adequately contained. I am concerned that this will lead to a second wave. We have a lot of people coming from out of state so I would rather move the wedding now rather than waiting and stressing out more.

I am currently hoping for the best for November 6, 2020 but agree that this is all so stressful and taking away from the happiness this year should be for us. It's silly but I always wanted to go to a bridal expo and didn't get to do that (or have an engagement party, or meet with vendors in person, same things we are all going through this year).

Our current plan is to wait until August/September and decide if we will postpone or not. We are just trying to have everything at least planned (almost everything is already) and then if we have to postpone we can just attempt to find a date that works in the spring. I was thinking maybe like April or May 2021 if we need to postpone but I'm also stressed about whether that's even far enough in advance. But at the same time I really don't want to push getting married out another full year. I don't know, all of this sucks. It is extra hard having absolutely no idea what fall will look like.

Happy to have a forum to talk to others who are in the same boat! Your thoughts and advice are helping .

Our original date is Nov 13th this year with the wedding in MA (we're in Los Angeles) and we're having a hard time deciding whether or not to postpone. Most of our family is in MA with some CA friends making the trip as well as other scattered family across the country. We have our photographer and DJ, but I'm hesitant to put deposits down for the cake and flowers and such in fear it's not gonna happen anyway. His family is really looking forward to this happening as it's the first family gathering in a while for them, so it's such a tough call.

I am in Michigan and my wedding date is 11/14/2020. I am still planning as I don't have another choice. We were on lock down and still not out of the woods but I am going to keep planning as if November is going to happen. Most halls here won't let you "reschedule" until your total headcount is due so I won't know until November 4th (10 days before my wedding).

This is very stressful but my date means something to us so I don't want to move it unless I have to. Even then, I will get married and have the reception later!

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I am doing the same here, Phoenix AZ major hot spot and my wedding is Nov 14 as well. I have had people that already RSVP yes texting me and emailing me cancelling. So now I don't even know who is still going. I decided to wait till next month to decide what to do and all the people that keep asking what I am doing I am telling them I am waiting to see how thing go for the next month. My fiance and I decided we will get married regardless if it is the original 40 we invited or even if it is just 10. I feel comfortable with that. I will either keep what I planned and scale back or get married on a trail somewhere with a few people if the venue cancels on us. So far the Venue is just encouraging me to wait and not make changes as well. I was feeling stress and now I am okay with it. I know it will work out regardless. I am sad it won't be the party I planned and imagined, but I was thinking about this yesterday. There are a lot of people talking about how much they despise 2020 and I am thinking having a wedding like we are perhaps we are the lucky ones that we are getting to celebrate 2020 despite all of this stuff going on in the world. Bless all of you brides!! I am sending you all good vibes. We still need to embrace the happiness and do what makes us most happy. The most important part is marrying that special person and having a celebration whether it is small or big it doesn't matter what matters is the memory and adventure.

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My wedding is November 14th in Michigan and we plan to still get married on that day regardless of the circumstances. My FH and I want to be married, we have waited and feel that it isn't about the "wedding" but it's about us and getting married to one another. Depending on the world and where we are in September, we will be making a judgement call to either cancel the reception or postpone it. My concern is if we postpone it how do we know that day won't be affected by COVID or if I have to postpone again. Every bride wants their day the way they want it, and have envisioned it. If my fiance and I can't have what we want, I don't want to keep sacrificing things left and right just to "have a reception" i'd rather cancel it all together and have a party later for us. I was very hopeful but am starting to lose hope really fast with the news lately.

View Quoted Comment Mine is November 6th and your post is exactly how I feel. We are going to decide in September or October at the latest whether to go ahead but we plan to unless anything extreme happens. We invited 170 people originally and just expect most to decline which we are fine with. We hope to have around like 30-40 maybe (we have a very spacious venue with large indoor/outdoor options) and will be able to spread out the seating and let people wear masks if they want but not mandatory. But we are also in our 30’s and have been waiting and are just ready to get married. I agree that if we postpone it is difficult since nobody knows when things will actually be normal again, it could be over a year from now even. We would rather have a smaller group at our wedding this year then hold off for that long just to have a big group.

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I cna understand that and I know that most guests (like 98%) are all understanding of the circumstances. We told people that it isn't personal and that we may have to cut people but will be sure to create a B list in case we have declines from our family. I don't want to wait another year or two, we are also ready to be married. Good Luck!!