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Devoted August 2011

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Dancing , on December 20, 2010 at 12:22 AM Posted in Planning 0 5

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Well first my FH brother enlisted in the Military so he wont be able to attend the wedding or be a part of the wedding party. Now his other brother, which is also a part of the wedding party is telling us that he may have to go to Afghanistan for a whole year. It really sucks because those are they only two brothers my FH has and neither will be there for him on that day. I know it's not their fault and I just really with there was something I could do to fix it. To top all of this off my FH sister was very upset that she wasn't apart of the wedding party which i have posted about previously. We aren't close at all and I never gave her the idea that she would be. She acted very immature about the whole situation and is now getting the whole family involved. I am not the type of person to just give into things either. I choose the girls i choose because of the strong relationships i have with them and three of them are my own sisters. She is making it really awkward at all the family

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Devoted August 2011
Dancing · on December 20, 2010 at 12:24 AM
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Events which makes me not even want to come around her. Ive tryed settling this a while ago and she refuses to talk to me about it. I no longer know what to do. If anyone has any input feel free to tell me. Thanks girls i really needed to vent.
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Zebra_Print_Bride™ · on December 20, 2010 at 1:19 AM
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I totally understand how you feel. My brother just enlisted in the Air Force and I am a big supporter for him but he may or may not have to leave before the wedding (how its looking he will leave a few weeks before). And seeing as how he is also a groomsman in the wedding party its hard. But I know the feeling of that possibility that the person(s) you want to really be there may not be able to be. As for the sister, have you tried talking to FMIL about her behavior? Her actions are very childish in and of themselves and if she acts this way now, I wouldn't want her in the bridal party anyway. You don't need that type of drama. But I would try to find a way to make peace or let the FILs know how you feel about the situation and where you stand on it.
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Devoted August 2011
Dancing · on December 20, 2010 at 1:22 AM
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Thanks Zebra print bride that makes me feel better knowing other bride's feel the same.
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Rosie · on December 20, 2010 at 1:24 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that both of your FH's brothers might not be able to attend the wedding. Perhaps you and FH can ask his sister to stand up on his side as part of the wedding party. She could wear the same dress as your BMs in a different color. This way you don't have to "give in" by making her one of your bridesmaids when you don't want her to be, your FH gets to have one of his siblings standing up with him and supporting him as he marries you, and his sister gets to be a part of the wedding party. Having his sister standing next to him might make his brothers' absences more bearable for him.
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Devoted August 2011
Dancing · on December 20, 2010 at 1:29 AM
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@Rosie ya i had this idea also. I thought it was common but my FH grandma seems to be very against it for some reason. She doesn't like the idea of it...
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