"Nothing Lasts Forever..."

How do any of us know? It hasn’t been forever yet. Honestly though, love won’t last forever unless you put in the work to make it last. Love isn’t passive, it can’t be taken for granted, it’s easier to lose than maintain obviously or there wouldn’t be so many break ups and divorces.

❤️ "Love isn’t passive, it can’t be taken for granted, it’s easier to lose than maintain"

From Dan Savage:

"We all know that a ‘successful’ marriage is one that until death do us part. So let me get this straight. Basically, if your husband or wife dies, you can chalk your marriage up to being successful. Congratulations?"

I had a marriage that lasted for 19 years. For the first 13, I would have said we were happy. For the next three, I would have said that we were happy except for his ED problem. (This was before Viagra, but it turned out he wasn't actually interested in sex anyway, and that's not a problem Viagra can cure.) Then he told me that things were so bad, he wanted a divorce if they didn't get better. I spent three years in therapy, trying to figure out a way to make them "better." Then he left me.

So, sometimes love lasts until death do you part. (Even then, that's not "forever.") But you can really only know that it will after your partner is dead, which is kind of late to appreciate it. Before that, you can try hard to maintain it, and appreciate the time that you have, but you won't get guarantees.

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I would consider until death do you part forever because that's as far as it can go.

I don't think love is the exception. I think for anything to last it needs a lot of work. Wether something lasts forever or not is dependant on how well it is cared for and how well it is built.
Like a pyramid we need to engineer our relationship well from the start in order for it to last and continue to care for it. Some people find it easy to do that and last until death do them part, some people don't. It's why divorce exists. If love was the exception divorce wouldn't happen.

Nothing does last forever. Everything changes including relationships. I don't anticipate the marriage I have 10 years ago will look the same. Both my husband and I will change. We'll both be parents (hopefully) and that will alter our dynamic forever. We hope our marriage will be even stronger, but that's still different.

It's the same as the wine we bought for our anniversaries. Sure the label might look the same. But the wine we toast at our first year anniversary will taste different than the wine we taste at our 20th.

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It's interesting that we marry for "forever" but so many people believe that nothing lasts forever.

View Quoted Comment My relationship with my mom, sister, etc have changed. Why wouldn't my relationship with my husband? He'll always be my family. But I doubt our marriage will look the same 10 years from now.

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I'm not arguing that relationships don't change over time. I'm asking if we believe that love lasts forever. A relationships dynamic can change and the relationship still survives.

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Yup. I get it. I just think that the type of love changes within a relationship. We might use the same word for it, but I do think it's a different thing entirely.