Not Talking to Anyone After Wedding

I am sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed and it also seems like you have some jitters. Did something happen that is making you not want to talk to anyone for a long time? Just take deep breaths and it's better you talk about with your FH or a trusted individual to get things off of your chest. You're going to make yourself more ansy and uncomfortable if you keep your frustrations inside. It's okay to have "me-time", it's actually encouraged, you know, to take breaks from all of the wedding related matters. Have all the vendors been paid off, everything ready to go? Anything in particular making you upset? Just take some deep breaths and do activities that are not related related for a while. I am sorry you're feeling like this.

Yes girl. I powered through my bridal shower but it was hard. Just remember to focus on your fiancé and why you’re doing this.

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Hi Andrea, thanks for your concern! I am just an introvert, so interacting with others can be exhausting for me. Nothing has happened and I am excited about the marriage and wedding and seeing everyone, but I am still so so tired of socializing with family/friends. Everything is ready to go, and the planning (like DIYing, excels, etc) doesn't feel tiring, I really enjoy that part.

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Yes. Thanks for this reminder. This is really helpful.

Yes, it can all be overwhelming and exhausting!! Keep your focus on your FH as much as possible and slip away by yourself for a few minutes when you can. Even if it's just in a bathroom stall to catch your breath for a few minutes. You'll get through it and have a brand new husband at the end of it. So worth it!!!

Thank God there is someone like me out there! I'm trying to remind myself it's going to be fun, but the nerves are taking over. I keep obsessing that everyone is going to be judging my non existent social skills. It's not even just the wedding, I'm nervous for the shower, and the rehearsal dinner as well. Two groups want to throw me showers, I have to travel for both after working 4 10 hour shifts every week. I sincerely appreciate the thought and effort, but I'm going to be mentally and physically exhausted. I feel like I'm supposed to personify utmost bridal perfection, but that will never happen lol. How am I supposed to go up to people and start a conversation?? Thank people?? I'm going to have to watch YouTube videos about how to have conversations lol.

Sorry I went on a bit of a rant there. I just feel like everyone gets more excited as it gets closer, and I'm getting more nervous and going into my introverted turtle shell.

Same girl. I HATE being around people. I mean, I obviously love my family and friends but social anxiety is definitely a problem. My MOH is same too. When we hang out we just order in food and watch movies. Literally never go anywhere haha. I’ve gotten better at since I met my FH but I’m still nervous for the wedding. Even though it’s not until April, we’re inviting 342 people. I die thinking about it but my parents are paying so they had a major say in the guest list. Nevertheless, still super excited. We will get through it!!

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SAME. I can get really weird particularly in groups with people I haven't seen in a while.

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Good idea- gonna try to take my FH for little walks though out the night.

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Me too. Something weird and really embarrassing happens to me when I get nervous. I start to hyper ventilate without realizing it, then my face and hands go numb. Then my top lip starts to curl in and I look like a psychopath. I'm truly hoping that doesn't happen and I have that weird face in my pictures.

The only thing making me feel better is my FH has agreed to try to do the majority of the talking, and he tells me to just focus on him, so that's what I'm going to try and do.

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WOW!!! We're gonna get through it and like others are saying, we are going to come out of it with a spouse.

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Hahahaha I relate. I ask weird questions or get quiet or my face gets very odd. I always check in with my FH and like ask HOW WEIRD WAS I 1-10?!?

Girl same! Plus, hubby's family is ginormous (easily 75% of the guests that attended) and they were at a LOT of the wedding-related things the few days before, so that was some extra anxiety beforehand, lol.

I was so glad when the wedding was over and hubby and I were on our way to our honeymoon. One of the biggest pluses to the honeymoon we chose (cruise to Alaska) was that we'd have basically no reception for 10 days straight. Only had to worry about talking to each other and no family. It was great.

🙋‍♀️ surrounded by extroverts. Can't stand a lot of this stuff. I'm also very free thinking, so I don't enjoy doing things simply because of tradition. I don't think I am truly nontraditional because if I can appreciate the history behind a tradition, I may decide I like it and keep it. I get very awnry when I am drained or have had my limit of interactions and I'm hoping I can just get through the wedding with relationships in tact. My worst fear is what will happen if I have to hear 100x about having kids (I'll be 36 going on 37 at my wedding, beat it), any stupid comments, etc. I work in government and with customers, so I'm well versed in bureaucracy and playing nice, but eventually I snap.

Fellow introvert here! I definitely need alone time to "recharge my batteries" and needless to say I feel the exhaustion too!

I'm bringing my car, haha. I said 30-45 minutes of photos max. If I need to I will go sit alone for 20 minutes somewhere. People drain me, seriously. I will power through but know to get a ton of sleep before and after. Been known to sleep 20 or more hours after big social gatherings.
Maybe I'll get too tipsy to care.