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Not sure where to go from here - Parent's passing

Andi, on October 16, 2019 at 12:39 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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I beautiful friends. I don't even know where to begin. I got engaged in June to a wonderful man who I love dearly. My dad had been battling leukemia for a long time and we thought we had a lot more time to plan. He felt good. Well, he took a sudden turn for the worse and we ended up losing him on September 14th. Needless to say, wedding planning is hard. I'm not sure how I want to continue planning. My fiance is super understanding. People keep asking me about the wedding and originally we were going to do fall of 2021 but that seems so soon (I know it isn't) we are definitely not in a huge rush. We love each other regardless and are happy, but I want to plan a wedding. Previously when my dad was alive there is no way we could do a destination wedding, and now we are able to potentially. It just is all hard. I cringe thinking of the father/daughter dance or walking down the aisle without him. Nothing about this summer and this engagement has been fun so far because we have been so focused him everything else because life happens.

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Latest activity by Sinéad, on October 22, 2019 at 8:48 AM

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Amber · on October 16, 2019 at 12:53 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure it must be hard. I think you should just take a month or 2 for a break to cope a little then try to figure out a plan. You could either push the wedding to the following year or do the destination wedding. You could always go less traditional and get married at the courthouse then have a big reception, too. I know the pain will still be there, but I think it's a little too fresh to make any decisions right now. Stay strong ❤️
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Megan · on October 16, 2019 at 1:40 PM
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I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss. Take some time away from wedding planning to be with loved ones. It’s okay to grieve for those things that you will miss. Maybe after a break you’ll be able to come back to wedding planning and it won’t be so painful. So sorry that you’re going through this. Sending love & all the positive vibes!! 💕
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Cyndy · on October 16, 2019 at 1:45 PM
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I agree with the others that maybe taking a break with wedding planning would help. Don’t stress yourself with that right now. Focus on grieving and in time you will know when you’re ready to plan a wedding.
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Sinéad · on October 22, 2019 at 8:48 AM
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Hi Andi!
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your father. I hope you are holding up ok.
Suffering such a terrible loss during a time that is meant to be so full of joy and promise is truly painful. Your loss is still very recent, so it is important to take the time you need to grieve. There is no need to rush into planning your wedding.
You should start planning your wedding when you are looking for a happy distraction but it’s totally ok to let your planning take a back seat when you feel like it’s getting to be too hard.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Please remember that this community is here to support you if and when you need.
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