Not sure what to do

We plan on doing that ourselves. We're offering to drive wedding party to the rehearsal so they can meet up with their spouses at dinner.

That's definitely odd. Maybe the partners could drop them off and head to the dinner location to wait.

I'd talk to the venue and explain the situation. Maybe even ask if significant others can hangout in the parking lot or the car since rehearsals only take 20 minutes or so?

That's weird aha never heard of it but ok. I don't think they'd mind really. Perhaps you could find a location close by your rehearsal for the dinner ?

No one who wasn't in the wedding was at our rehearsal, SO and additional guests just attended the dinner. As a BM, my H just met us for the RD, same thing when he was a GM and I was a guest.

Can you provide some kind of transportation for the guests?

View Quoted Comment How did you word it to everyone? Did you say something or was it kinda of expected that only the people in the ceremony attended.

Hmm I never thought of that. How many spouses are there? How many people in the wedding party? Maybe uber xl one group. Or just pick up everyone that has spouses that aren't in the wedding party if there's enough room in the car

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It was just expected. We told those who were participating in the rehearsal when and where it was and we sent out invitations for the actual dinner.

I really hope that's not suggested at my venue. We have decided against a full bridal party(at least for the moment) and are only having a flower girl and ring bearer(our kids). If one of our moms couldn't be there to help wrangle the kids, the rehearsal won't be doable. My kids will be 9 and almost 3(three weeks shy) haha

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I would be seriously shocked if this rule would pertain to parents of children in the wedding.

I have never heard of a place telling you the extra guests can't go. I know just my one bridesmaid's bf is going to meet us for the dinner only because he doesn't know anyone else, if he can even come at all due to work. If those are the rules you are just going to have to let everyone know. You might have the SO's decide not to come because of the hassle. It's really not your responsibility to provide them transportation. It's just a rehearsal they aren't technically a part of so they don't have to attend the dinner.

View Quoted Comment I would be too. But in our case the kids are ours so we need one of our moms to keep an eye on them while we are being relayed information.

I don’t think this is weird at all tbh haha...I’ve gone to plenty of rehearsal dinners but no rehearsals, I didn’t realize anyone not actively involved in the ceremony ever went! You just invite the spouses to the time and location of the dinner itself once it’s established. I guess if it’s the driving aspect you’re worried about you could try to offer to organize carpools, but I wouldn’t sweat it and wouldn’t think it’s super weird. If anyone gives you a hard time or seems annoyed, just explain it’s a venue policy. As long as spouses can come to dinner, it’s all good. Invite everyone for the dinner. Then talk to the people in the ceremony about where and when you need them

This is pretty common from where I'm from. We've dealt with it by carpooling with another couple. For example, the last wedding my FH was in, him and one of the other GM drove to the rehearsal while myself and the other GM wife had a drink. Then we just met with everyone at dinner.