Not Sure What to Do

You should send a thank you card now.

View Quoted Comment Would you use the left over ones from my shower or buy all of the ones that I am on sending to everyone after the wedding. I was hoping to buy them once we have a final guest count which isn't for a few more weeks.

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No one cares what kind of card you send them, as long as you thank them.

View Quoted Comment This is really up to you. I don’t think it matters one way or the other so you can use the shower thank you cards if you aren’t ready to purchase ones for the wedding yet.

We are using the same thank you cards for the wedding and for the shower lol, nobody will care as long as they are thanked! Just sent it asap. People want to be thanked, they want to know that you've received the gift, and it will be nice for you to get some of your thank yous out of the way now rather than saving them all to do after the wedding!

View Quoted Comment Our wedding thank you cards are going to be nicer quality. I planned to buy ones that have photos of my fiance and I. I will probably send him and the girlfriend one now and then another after the wedding just to thank them again for attending.

It's better to send a thank you immediately so they know you received the gift.

I would send a thank you card now, before the wedding. Use whatever you have, even if it is just a normal thank you card. Then they won't get lost in the shuffle of gifts you get on the wedding day, and its one less you have to write later.

Our wedding is July 20! I had my shower last weekend. This upcoming weekend, I'm sending thank you cards for everyone for the shower & for all the gifts we've received so far. I'll keep doing that until the end of June. Then any gifts we receive July 1 or later I'll just make a list and send after the wedding.

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Our wedding is the same day!!! After reading everyone's advice, I am going to send him a thank you card now. I add a note on my guest list of what he sent me and that I already sent him a note. I think after the wedding I will send him another thank you card just for attending.

Thank you cards should be sent as soon as possible after you receive a gift. Also, you should not send thank you cards to all your guests just for attending the wedding - that is what the reception is for. To do so might come across as passive aggressive if they didn't give you a gift at the wedding. Instead, only send thank you cards to your wedding guests that brought a gift to the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Use leftovers and buy more. It does not matter what your exact guest count is. Some who do not attend your wedding, or may not even be invited to it, will send gifts. Some will have a gift delivers before the wedding. And after sending a thank you, may give you a check, or another gift delivered as much as six weeks after the wedding. So you will need two thank you notes. Sometimes when you invite a couple or family on one invitation, you get one gift. Other times, each member of the couple will get you a gift, just from them, so you need 2 different thank you cards. If an elder or teen child in the family gives you a separate gift, just from them, another thank you note. And to top it off, some people will not give you anything. So it does not matter how many attend, for the purpose of buying thank you cards. It is not proper etiquette to send thank you notes to people who attended, but did not send or give gifts. Backwards if etiquette to do so. . . When a host gives a party, the guests thank the hosts, either with a hostess gift and a card, thanking you. Or if no gift, with a thank you note. Since most guests give big gifts, with a card expressing good wishes, they do not need to write a separate note afterward. But technically, anyone who attends, with no gift, owes the bride and groom, or wedding hosts, a thank you for inviting them to the wedding, and also a thank you for any meal ir refreshments, in that same note. Guests thank hosts, for parties, or dinners, or any special invitation. Hosts do not thank guests except for gifts. . . If someone travels a ling ways, and you were super happy to see them, you can write them a regular letter or note card. But NOT a thank you note.

Send the thank you card now! I think it's fine to use the leftover cards (as long as they don't say "bridal Shower"). No one will be comparing thank you cards with one another to know if they got the wedding ones or the bridal shower ones.

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Keep in mind that it sometimes takes quite a while to get professional photographs back from your photographer, and then a while to get photo cards printed. Thank you cards should be sent ASAP, within 1-2 months at the latest. Make sure that you and your FI don't wait too long to send your thank you cards because you're waiting for special cards. It's more important that you thank guests in a timely manner and with a personal note than you do so with particular thank you cards.

In the case of this gift, definitely send the thank you now, with one of the leftover cards from your bridal shower (unless they say actually say 'bridal shower' on them, in which case just get another pack of cards).