Not Sure What to Do---uniform or Suit?

Yes, you're being selfish. He didn't get to pick your wedding dress, you don't get to pick his attire either. I'm sure he has just as much vision of what he wants to look like on his wedding day as you do, your vision isn't any more important than his.

It is a bit selfish but I totally understand where you're coming from. I would love to have the uniform as well BUT maybe, as a compromise, you can see if he's ok with changing into his dress blues for some pictures afterward. Although it's not the altar as you envisioned, you would still get your uniform and he would feel more comfortable and happy since he gets to wear his charcoal suit.

View Quoted Comment His happiness is more important that my vision so I think you're right here. I'll talk to him and leave the choice up to him. Thank you for your advice.

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You're more than welcome!

Agree with pp that just like you pick your dress, he gets to pick his outfit. He should wear what he likes & feels comfortable in.

May I ask why are you so set on him wearing uniform? What’s so special about him wearing it? I guess I just don’t see what you’ll be missing out on if he wears a suit, that you say he looks great in.

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Well, part of it I think is that he initially WANTED to wear it, and then changed his mind and wanted to wear something else. And then, he changed his mind again and wanted to wear it. Honestly, part of it is because he's changed his mind a few times, coupled with the fact that I 'overthink' things, etc etc.

I've talked with him about it now, and told him again that I want him to wear what he's comfortable with. So situation resolved, thanks to all who kindly contributed.

Let him wear what he wants. My fh hated when people wanted him to be in his uniform if he wasn't in a military event/drill. He hates the attention. Let him wear his suit

I have to agree, I think it's selfish to pressure him into wearing what YOU want him to wear. Like you said, it's his wedding too. Wearing what he wants and what makes him comfortable is just as important as you wearing the dress you want to wear.

I do love a man in uniform though, they always look so good in them. So I understand why you'd want him to

My husband is also in the military. He didnt want to wear his dress blues because it is uncomfortable. Let him wear the suit. He will be much happier the day of.