Not sure MOH would like my idea of a bachelorette party

I understand that you are supposed to be grateful your MOH/bridal party throws you a bachelorette at all, but as someone who was also just a MOH and is now a bride, I made sure to ask my MOH what she did and didn't want. Hopefully being your MOH she will be considerate of what you like and not do what she would do, knowing that you would do the same for her.

One of my bridesmaids is taking over the planning (I'm not designating a MOH). She knows the type of party I would like, yet she won't be sharing details w me. You should def communicate what YOU want just like you described above. Is your party, not theirs, if you have a preference and she already offered to host the event then let her know. Now... if you are assuming that she will be planning this party I would hold off on any requests as you don't want her to feel pressured to take on this task. Ask her to be in the wedding party first and then see what happens. Your wedding is well over a year from now so no need to worry about this right now.

We are going horseback riding, shooting range, then out for dinner, drinks and the club that evening. best of both worlds in my opinion

My MOH is letting me handle most of my arrangements since we're doing a combined party. A Drag Show in Vegas then party afterwards. Since I lived in Vegas for 29 years and know the performers and everything she's happy to let me lead and she helps out. She's handling the party goers for us. Plus she's handling the transportation.

If she asks what you want then be honest, if not hopefully she thinks about what you would want and not what she wants

My MOH and I are kind of similar. I like a lot of outdoors things and she'll go along with me but not really her favorite thing. She would have liked penises everywhere party Vegas style. I think typically the wedding party will ask you kind of what you want. We ended up going to Temecula (wine country outside San Diego) because 2 of my bridesmaids live in SD so only myself and my MOH had to fly for it (and she was planning a flight anyways). I love wine so was perfect for me. When planning what to do the other day, she asked what I would like. I said I would love to do something outside in SD. We did a mild hike. It was perfect because it was very tough so the non-outdoorsy people liked it but it was still beautiful and something we could do outdoors.

I think MOH will probably ask. You shouldn't plan it but you could tell her things that would interest you. Unless your bridal party also likes camping, I probably wouldn't ask them to go camping though.

My best friend is getting married soon and does not have a bridal party at all. I asked her for ideas of what she would like to do and who shes inviting to the wedding that she would want at her bachelorette

You don't have a MOH yet.... focus on that first

You're getting way ahead of yourself. You haven't even asked her to be your MOH yet (you ask, not tell). She may say no. Or she may decide not to host a bachelorette for you. Worry about this in six months.

You are putting the cart waaaay before the horse. In like July NEXT YEAR you can offer some ideas if she asks and wants to host.

I agree it's a little early to be thinking about it, but when the time comes, if she asks, be honest with her and tell her what you envision. If you're making her your MOH she should know and love you well enough to embrace what you want to do for a party celebrating you, even if it's not what she personally had in mind.

I feel like its fair to communicate what you do not want for a bach. party, but hopefully your MOH asks you about your preferences. I would try to wait for her to bring it up and then make your preferences known.

It is way too early to be thinking about it. You can hint around but in the end it's her call.

Three days of tiny dresses and shots?

Nope.

I'm kind of in a similar boat to a degree. My MOH lives out-of-state, so we aren't doing the bachelorette party until the Sunday right before the wedding. If it was her way, she'd be all about the bars, maybe a strip club, stuff like that. Me? That's seriously not my taste. To be perfectly honest, I'd be highly uncomfortable if I went to a bar OR a strip club. (Plus one of my bridesmaids doesn't turn 21 until 3 days after the bachelorette party sooo that would be a bit of a bummer for her).

My MOH is keeping her plans a secret from me, but she has chatted with the bridesmaids. All of them had assured me that it would be something I'd enjoy and that she's honoring my request.

I get that it is early, but if you're planning on making her your MOH, the conversation is bound to be brought up at some point. So my two cents is to chat with her about it. I get that she's the one to plan it, but you've got to enjoy it, too.

I pretty much asked my gals to come with me to the beach and we called that my bachelorette. Lol we just got back and had a great time.

Still a little early to worry about that but I was in a similar situation. My MOH originally planned a spa day which included a massage for me. I'm super weirded out by people touching me so I knew that a massage would go wayyy under appreciated. Instead my mom got the vibe from me that this wouldn't work and she talked to her and instead I was surprised with an escape room with the whole wedding party and it was the best thing for us really.

You can definitely give ideas if she asks. If she's planning a party for you hopefully she would just take into account what you'd like and not necessarily what she would like. However, as others have said, it's way too early to even be thinking of this. Bachelorette parties are usually a month or so before the wedding day. Mine is Sept 23rd.

Why are you even thinking about his yet? And hopefully she will ask you what you want to do since its your party.

I am in a similar situation. My bridesmaids have all shared with me that they talked and would love to take me to a winery and spa. They've joked about getting me drunk. The problem is I don't drink, nor do I want to. I've never been to a spa but am not sure how comfortable I'd be with someone touching me.

I have been honest with them about that and they were pretty bummed and have continued to say it would be so much fun. What I did is I made my FH and Mom aware of their plans and they told me they would talk to them. I don't want a bachelorette party, but I would love to go see a show on broadway or go to some museums in Manhattan and have a nice dinner. My FH has offered to buy tickets for whatever I want to go to and my Mom has said she will come and will pay for the dinner so that the girls in my BP feel more obligated to do what I want.

If you're not comfortable putting your foot down with your MOH, I would have others step in to help you. You deserve to be happy at your party.

I agree it is early to think about. But I mean, I won't lie I went against etiquette (didn't know until after I joined here) and basically planned my

Own Bach. I told the girls what I wanted to do and let them know like 9 months out so everyone could save money. No obligation to come. This is how my cousins did it so I assumed that's how it worked.

I'm sure if you mention what you picture or bring it up in casual conversation (in a few months once you ask her to be MOH first) she will take your thoughts into consideration.