Not sure how to feel

What were the reasons she gave you for making those decisions?

View Quoted Comment Haven't been given a reason why I'm not part of bridal party.
As for my partner I've been with him for 2 years. There's been no issues between them.

How big is the wedding? If it's 20-30 people and only a MOH/best man situation, then it would be more understandable. Now if she's having a full-on 250 person with 8 bridesmaids wedding, it is a big snub to not invite your bf. Any chance he's significantly more attractive than the groom and she's jealous lol?!

This is really inexcusable. My brother got a girlfriend after invites were sent out and I was having a hard time trying to find space for her to come. For you to have an established relationship that she is readily dismissing is gross. I'm sorry you're going through this. Have you spoken to your parents about this?

I wouldn’t attend a wedding, even my sisters, where my SO was excluded. That’s ridiculous. What has your relationship been like with your sister up to this point?

I would be so hurt if my sister did not ask me to be in her wedding. My sister isn't my MOH but she's a bridesmaid and walking me down the aisle because my parents aren't in the picture. And the whole not being able to bring your SO is just rude too. I hope she gives you a real reason. I would still go. You don't be able to go back and change this and it will always be an argument. I'd just let her know how you're feeling.

Do her the favor of declining the invite. It doesn’t really sound like she wants you there anyway.

Wow! Your sister needs a speaking to!
Any serious relationships should get an invite there's no reason to not invite your partner.
I'm not picking my sister as bridesmaid either so that one you'll have to let go.
But overall it sounds like she's being a bit weird, are you two close?

Her behavior is inexcusable, and you definitely need to have a conversation with her. Not picking you as a bridesmaid, while hurtful, hopefully in more a logistical thing. But I definitely understand being hurt by it. I would rather pick no siblings over just one. This doesn't feel like as big a deal as ALSO not inviting your SO. It sounds like she is intentional ostracizing you. But really, you can't know that without a direct, face to face, conversation.

Wow! That is beyond rude! I mean you are about to MARRY this person and they aren't included?? That would require me today down and ask her what the issue is.
As for the not being in the Bridal party, you could look at it like this: she has already shown she is going to be a Bridzilla- so you may have dodged a bullet...
Have you two been close? Is there something that happened to cause this?
Regardless, I'm soooo sorry.

View Quoted Comment My Mum has made it quite clear that when I saw the fb post and was really upset she said grow up you're over reacting. So now with the lastest my Cousin was the one who gave me the save the date envelope that my mum had at hers as I live hour away from family. My mum said to my cousin " I'm not getting in the middle of this" my cousin had no idea what was going on. so my mum knew my partner wasnt invited either... it's really just CRAP behaviour and the more I think about it the more I'm getting annoyed especially when I haven't had support or backup from my parents or reply from my sister.

Her and i have had issues in the past but always resolved them so it came as a shock to finding out that I'm not as important to them.

View Quoted Comment Wow sounds like she's being a brat. Totally understandable if you don't want to go.
Also super immature and crappy of your mother to let your cousin be an unknowing middleman!

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry you're not getting support from your family in this. I think you should consider whether you find it necessary to be there. It's normal to be upset with your sister for not including you as a bridesmaid when you're other sister is included. I would be hurt in your situation but understand that everyone has their own vision for their wedding day but inviting you without your significant other is wrong. I don't understand how she could justify it in her mind. This is sad. Honestly, I wouldn't even consider going to a wedding my husband wasn't invited to, especially with no valid reason.

Wow im so sorry this is happening. Id be hurt to if i had a sister and was not asked to be in her wedding. As for her not inviting your partner, thats just rude. I would have a talk with her and see why he isnt invited.
I guess i would also have to step back and see if its even worth going to this wedding, since you arent in the wedding party and your partner isnt invited.. she sure isnt making it known she wants you there

It’s fine if you aren’t included in the bridal party, but I get why you would be upset. Think of it as money saved on that one lol. As for not inviting your partner, that’s straight up rude. I would ask her for the reason why he is not invited and explain that you are upset about it. As for not attending, I would be on the fence about that bc it is your sister. If it was a friend’s wedding, I would probably decline.

How can I even possibly enjoy watching her get married when this is happening. I really appreciate your feedback. It's helping me immensely.

I would let the bridesmaid thing go. I know it's disappointing and sad but it's her decision.

I would absolutely want to know why my SO isn't invited. I don't care if it caused problems by asking, I'd ask why. That's just stupid rude of her.

View Quoted Comment Im really sorry to hear your situation and i honestly think you shouldn't go. Because of both of these factors it may make the entire wedding a bit uncomfortable for you, especially if you feel like she doesnt want you there.

This is very poor etiquette. Proper etiquette dictates that anyone with a SO needs to be invited as a unit. I'm not sure why she would do this, except to antagonize you! So, if it were me, I would decline the invitation. I'm not going to any wedding where my SO is not invited!

So sorry. Sisters shouldn't act like this.