Not sure how to feel.. Help!

First, congrats on having the hard conversations you needed to have so that you didn't have to compromise too much. You only get one wedding, right?


Now, why do you think people aren't excited for your wedding? It shouldn't matter if it's tomorrow or if it's 5 years from now. I bet there are plenty of people who are dying to be by your side and witness the ceremony.
Did someone say something to make you feel like you shouldn't be excited? Because lemme tell you I'M excited and I don't even know you!

People don’t get excited for events 14 months in advance. That’s just the way it is. Next time I would also wait until much closer to the wedding to send invitations. They’re typically sent 6-8 weeks in advance.

No one is going to be as excited for your wedding as you are. It is never a bad thing to decide to wait but a lot of people will see this change as the little boy who cried wolf and irresponsible as this decision should have been made prior to invites being sent out and surely prior to 5 months from the wedding since most have probably already made plans, made travel arrangements, gotten sitters, taken days off, bought outfits etc.

BUT!

There is never anything wrong with waiting and having the big day you want or working on your relationship. Good luck with everything and I hope that you ultimately do get your dream wedding!

Kudos to you for having difficult conversations and doing what's right for you!

I'll tell you the same thing I told my best friend who also felt this way (and she didn't change the date, keep in mind): No one is going to be as excited for your day as you are (and that oftentimes applies to the SO as well). At the end of the day, this day is about you and your SO. So while I get that other people are totally amped and excited, they won't care nearly as much simply because it doesn't change their lives. This is a HUGE and exciting change for your and your SO, but it doesn't really effect many other people (even your families, yes, they are gaining more family, but for them things won't really change that much day-to-day).

I know you want people to be excited, and I bet they are! But between it being so far away, the changes and then what i said above, it's not surprise to me that people aren't showing as much enthusiasm as you may want.

I've had this conversation with many brides before (friends of mine) and they all feel people aren't as enthusiastic as they expected, but honestly, that's because no one will be.

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I appreciate that! Thank you! I think maybe it's just me, i feel people see it as oh maybe they won't follow through with it, or people think "something happened" since we decided to push it off. But sometimes i get in my own head so its nice to be reassured! Thanks so much!

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I learned my lesson with that one! Will def wait to send them off till closer! Thank you!

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I really learned my lesson with that. I felt bad about waiting so close but after much discussion we realized the bigger wedding is just what we felt was right, plus the other venue was only allowing us 4 hours for everything and this new one is an all day access kind of thing. Thank you so much!

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I appreciate that! I understand, i'm glad to hear stories similar so i don't feel so crazy. I want my mind to stay in line and try not to let negative thoughts cloud everything. Weddings are suppose to be fun! Thanks so much for your advice!

Good for you for not compromising! They'll get more excited as the new date rolls around!

I feel like they're probably not acting excited because they were told the event is in 5 months and they were excited about that, and then being told "actually it's in 14 months" is a bit of a let down? Lol. I mean, not criticizing you AT ALL, if that was the decision that was best for you guys then it's good that you did it! But that's probably why people arent acting excited. I'm sure they will be more as it gets closer again