Not sure how to ask fsil who I've never actually met to be a bridesmaid

Would be cute if you asked via animal crossing aha

Personally, I wouldn't ask someone to be in my bridal party unless you are really close to that person. There have been so many posts from brides who regret who they picked to be in their bridal party. I wish had done picked other people to be in my wedding. My own sister was a nightmare and never should've been maid of honor. If you really want to include, I would call them and ask. I also would avoid asking them too soon. I see your wedding is still over a year away. I would wait until your wedding is closer as relationships change.

I think what you're doing is great to include your FSIL. If you're not going to see her in person anytime soon, why not send a cute "care package" with a "will you be my BM"

How did you ask the other people?

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That is actually a really cute idea!

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I agree, I personally feel like this is all happening too soon but am being pressured by bridesmaids who I have asked already about plans for next year already as they are panicking because a lot of weddings that were for this year are being rescheduled for next year and I guess they are afraid that if they don't start booking stuff now that they will have a harder time next year? I have no idea

Third vote for asking on Animal Crossing.

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Thank you I am trying to include his family because they are also becoming my family.

My sister and step sister I made cute little boxes with a picture of us, a hand sanitizer that said Bride Squad or something, a face mask and some ring pops with a handmade card.

For my friends I made little bags with a handmade card, a hand sanitizer, a face mask and some ring pops, so basically the same but without a picture of us.

I saw this website called Greetabl and was thinking about maybe sending them one of those.
You can pick the box, a little gift and another bonus gift like confetti or a face mask. Seemed fairly affordable and cute and I wouldn't have to physically ship it myself. Still trying to think of other ideas.

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I think that would be so cute however I just checked my Switch and realized she hasn't been on for like a month

Maybe with the new update coming soon that will change!

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It sounds like you asked them to be bridesmaids way too soon.

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I think that sounds great!

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Yeah, probably. It was immediate as soon as we got engaged the constant asking and prying from family. I'm the oldest so this is new territory for my immediate family. I have had a lot of pressure from my family, they originally wanted us to get married this year and had grandparents tell me that the sooner the better because they might not be here next year – I am so glad that my fiancé put the kibosh on that. Definitely learned my lesson. Dreading a lot of things since a chunk of my family doesn't get along.

Animal Crossing would be a cute way! I asked my future sister in laws, hoping it can bring us even closer. What you’re doing is sweet.

View Quoted Comment Hopefully they will put their feelings aside for your wedding. My father-in-law is estranged from my sister-in-law and brother-in-law and they were all at our wedding. We sat them from away from each other. They were civil because they didn't want to make a scene. We also had friends that used to date at our wedding and we were worried how they would behav, but they got along just fine.

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Agreed. Your attendants are closest family and/or friends whom you have known awhile already, not someone you haven't met yet. Don't ask them out of obligation to other people.

View Quoted Comment Girl! I feel you on this pressure from family on this whole planning wedding thing. I’ve got a lot pressure from his side of the family. They still ask and tell us things to do things when we don’t even talk about it! He even told them not to ask and they still do. Takes the fun out of things. Glad I have him. Good luck with everything!