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Not spending enough time with guests

Tara, on March 1, 2019 at 3:18 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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I have a few people coming from all over the US for our super intimate wedding, 30 people. Some are friends I haven't seen in years, 1 is a half brother I've never met but have spoken with a lot over the last 10 years and FH is a close FB friend, 1 is a full blood sister I've met once (I was adopted at 5 weeks old). They are all coming in the night before the wedding and FH and over a leaving for a couple days immediately after the reception.

I don't want to be disrespectful towards them but I don't want to spend the night before the wedding up all night partying. We also only have the venue for 4 hours which is ceremony, reception, and pics because FH and I refuse to do a first look. How in the world do I make this work!?! They are all staying at different places as well.

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Latest activity by Nicole, on March 5, 2019 at 2:00 PM

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April · on March 1, 2019 at 7:57 AM
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I've heard some people do a brunch the day after the wedding. You could invite those people out for brunch the next day and catch up with them and leave the rest of the day open and unplanned in case you guys want to talk and hang out a little longer.
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Chandra · on March 1, 2019 at 8:01 AM
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The brunch is a great idea. Or you could have an after party depending on what time your reception is over?
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Colleen · on March 1, 2019 at 8:19 AM
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She is leaving immediately after reception. I think if you want to spend time with family you have to compromise somewhere else. Unless you plan to go visit them in the next year or two. If toy do a rehearsal dinner early you don’t have to party all night long.
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Summerbride77 · on March 1, 2019 at 12:58 PM
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Could you do a welcome party? We have a lot of out of town guests. We're doing the rehearsal dinner two days before the wedding with just the VIPs and immediate family (all OOT) and a welcome party the night before at a brewery near the hotel for all the guests (this will run ~3pm to 7pm). My aunts are also throwing a bridal bruncheon/luncheon the day before.
You don't have to do anything fancy just making some time to connect with them the day before the wedding, even if it's just for one drink or a meal. Most people will understand that time gets a bit crunched right before a wedding.
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April · on March 1, 2019 at 1:19 PM
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Sorry I missed the part about leaving directly after the reception. Honestly if you only get 5-10 minutes to speak with them during the reception but still reach or to them after the honeymoon to say how much you appreciate them making it there, they should understand. I was in a similar situation when I was a guest at a friend's wedding years ago. I flew in the morning of the wedding and flew out the next evening and the reception was on a tight timeline, I only got a few minutes to congratulate my friend but after the honeymoon she genuinely thanked me for coming. And I have no hard feelings on that.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on March 2, 2019 at 1:33 AM
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If you have a lot of guests coming in from out of town, a welcome dinner might be nice as a “meet & greet” for guests and time for you to spend with them. Maybe just order pizza & beer then you guys can both excuse yourselves by 8:30 or 9:00. If they want to keep partying they can.
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Nicole · on March 5, 2019 at 2:00 PM
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I would recommend a casual rehearsal dinner/rehearsal cocktail hour. That would allow you to mingle with all of your guests the night before. Or could you do a brunch the day of the wedding? Maybe have an early breakfast with most guests before you start getting ready for the wedding.

Honestly with it being an intimate 30ppl, I think you will have plenty of time to talk with everyone during your reception.
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