Not registered/would rather have honeymoon money

You dont. Most people give money anyway for the wedding itself. You can't ask people to pay for your vacation.

This is tacky af, there is no way you can tactfully ask for money. Just don't register and don't say anything. People will get the hint.

There is no tactful way of saying this.

Don't people lurk.. Jesus Christ this is posted at least 3 or more times a day

I wish I could say that I read through the WeddingWire forums for support from fellow brides but that's almost never the case. Lol.

I think you're fine. Just don't register and people should get the hint. I'm sure there will be a lot of cards with checks and cash in them so just make sure you at least grab that out of the cards (if you're going straight to your honeymoon after the wedding) and annotate that somehow so you can keep track of it when writing your thank you cards. Maybe even assign that duty to a well-trusted bridesmaid or coordinator or something. I also think if they confront you about not having a registry, just explain that you've been married before and have everything you think y'all need. If they want to help, they can help by tossing you some spending money for the honeymoon. That simple. You're not tacky. Lol.

This is our 2nd go round both of us own houses and we didn't register and didn't say anything ppl got the hint because a few of my friends asked should they make the checks out to me or both of us.

Okay, so I have been through this mess... my suggestion is I would register for small things (we are only register for about 60 items) for those who prefer getting us a gift, and we registered for some higher end things (we live together already and we have everything we need so we registered for upgraded items), and that's about it. If they ask you can say that you registered for a few items but would prefer giftcards or even money towards a honeymoon (but only mention through word of mouth). Even let you Future in Laws and parents know so they can let relatives know. My FMIL mentioned that she has family that will refuse to give cash and will buy a gift no matter what. So it is better to register for things you want or you might have more of a chance to end up with like 7 toasters lol,

So register (but only a few items for those who will give you a gift regardless, at least you have a chance of getting something you guys need/want) and let your families know about the preference of saving for a honey moon.

There isn't a way- gifts are nice but don't host a party and expect someone to bring a gift- ever----I host parties for friends just for the hell of it and don't expect anything--- it's a get together because I want to be around them- if I can't afford to do something I don't do it.

plan to pay your own way through life- when gifts or money come your way- it's a bonus-

When I'm invited I always bring something most people do, but it's really so tacky to ask for any gift- I dislike registries for this reason- way I was brought up.

Just do a small registry -- believe me you can find something you would like. Many people like to actually buy something so you I would guess you would want something you have chosen versus something they might choose that you already have. We are a second marriage as well...but we found stuff (even on Amazon) that we both would love to have.

The reason why you can't find a tactful way of saying it is because there literally IS no tactful way of saying it. It's tacky and rude. Adults don't ask for money as they are capable of making it themselves. Guests might give cash gift if they so choose, then you can do as you want with it.

@Karen I don't really like registries, either, for that reason. We did a very small one anyway because we kinda had to, but I really don't care for the idea.

If you've seen this topic before, you obviously haven't read the threads because there is no polite way to ask for money.

You make a little registry. You be grateful for anything that comes your way.

Brace yourself honey! These ladies are the no cash bar/no honey fund/ no tacky reception/no dry reception kind of crowd. Best of luck

We're thinking of making a small registry with unusual things like fancy chop sticks and fancy pants cutlery and kitchen gadgets we wouldn't normally purchase for ourselves. FH thought if we registered for items like that people were more likely to just give money. Yes? No?

No need to do anything.

One of my friends lived with her now hubs for years before getting married so they didn't set up a registry... everyone got the hint and brought cards with $ instead!

We just didnt do a registry, MOST people got the hint. If someone feels so compelled to bring you a gift, they'll do so regardless of what you ask anyways. Besides it's easier to just give cash anyways, who wants to fuss with a registry.

Is this sh*t real?

This will be my second marriage; FH's first.

The house was mine so we didn't have everything a new couple desires.

So we made a small registry.

We also decided to do a AAA honeymoon registry but not for the cost of the honeymoon. We've paid for that in full. Guests have the option to add a dinner, massage, excursion, wine, etc.

We've had nothing but positive feedback.

Amber? You're never going to get support for shitty, rude ideas here. And that's the best kind of support.

I can tell you (and anyone who says, "My guests loved it!") your guests don't love it. It's a shakedown and they're just too polite to tell you to your face.

I went to a wedding with a honeyfund. Guess what happened? Everyone gave them cash.

No registry. People take the hint. Done.