Not paying for bridesmaids

I would prepare yourself to be down a maid if you’re unable or unwilling to foot her bill

im sorry you’re going through this but it’s not deadline time yet

maybe things will improve for this situation in the coming weeks

personally we prefer plan for the worst and hope for the best so if you’re in love with your number of bridesmaids I would start considering her replacement as well as mentally preparing for the fact she may not be in the wedding after all if she cannot buy the dress and no one else can or will either

She would no longer be a bridesmaid.

Can you ask her privately if splitting the cost of the dress with her would help her out? She will likely say no, but at least it shows her that you value the friendship enough to try to salvage her role. $150 is worth saving a friend over. At least with the offer you may get the real reason why shes saying that in the first place. It could be less the money and more her feelings of inadequacy. Anyone can save $150 in a couple of months to buy a dress. More is going on there than you can see I bet.

I did ask if she wanted to split the price and she said she couldnt still

View Quoted Comment Why’d she agree to be a bridesmaid if she couldn’t afford the role?

She doesn't want to be your bridesmaid

Yeah if she’s not even “able” to split the cost with you and pay $75 she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid...

Have you talked to her aside from wedding talk? Like have a whole genuine conversation about her life and what’s going on with her? I only ask because there may be something going on (not wedding related) that she may be stressing over. It could very well be what other people are suggesting and that she doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid for whatever reason, but if you haven’t already I would have a heart to heart 100% about her. Don’t bring up your wedding or her inability to afford a dress. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out for you!

It is my sister in law and shes tight on money which is buy I'm purchasing my niece and nephews outfits. Also why I said she can do whatever she wants hair and shoes and picks the dress so that I could make it easier.

View Quoted Comment I would think it might not only be about money if she isn’t willing to pay half. Can you offer to pay for the dress and have her pay you back for half over the next few months? I would think if she isn’t willing or able to save up $75 over the next 6 months she must have other worries and might not be able to take on this commitment. If you haven’t, I’d suggest having a talk about what’s going on in her life - it might give you the answer as to why she is delaying the dress purchase.

I would if I could but I already need a loan to finish paying for the wedding I can't buy it

I would drop her as a bridesmaid and offer her to be an usher instead. She can still be involved in the wedding with her children but doesn’t have to buy a $150 dress.

Hi Crystal, does she have to buy the $150 dress? Or is that just the one she has her heart set on? If you dress requirements are as loose as you say, just a blue dress. Maybe arrange a trip to an H&M or similar store where she can find a very inexpensive dress that matches her budget?

I would ask her straight up, in the nicest way possible, if she’s still interested in being a bridesmaid. Maybe add something like “if you are still interested we will figure out a way to make this work and get you the dress” So she knows youre not just asking her to get rid of her or something. If she says no and gives you a reason then you can move on with it without her. If

View Quoted Comment My other bridesmaids have already purchased the dress.

This is the dress

I don't think you're being unreasonable. I'd just be blunt in a respectful way.

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I'm sorry I misunderstood the situation. I thought your bridesmaid's were all wearing different blue dresses that they individually picked out. Thank you for clarifying

I agree with what other's have said you've got three options if she truly cannot afford the dress (and/or won't buy the dress due to price):

1. discretely help her pay for the dress

2. allow her to buy a different dress in a similar color/style that's in her price range

3. cut her from bridesmaids.

Like other's have said I'd talk with her about her situation before making a final decision on what action you're going to take.

Can she be in a different dress, that's similar but a different style?