Not inviting people to postponed wedding who knew about initial wedding plans

A lot of people are cutting guest lists right now. I’d just be mindful of how you word it because people could get offended. Also if theyve already attended your bridal shower and gave you a gift (not sure if you had a shower yet) its probably rude to uninvite. But with lowered venue capacities due to the pandemic, its something a lot of couples are doing and most should be understanding

Since everyone is cutting their list due to Covid you can get away with it and blame it on Covid

I agree with the previous comments - if you phrase it as COVID restrictions/limiting guest list out of concern for the health and safety of everyone, it can be done.

Under normal circumstances it could be rude. But I think you said it best when you said there’s really been no contact or communication, so if you don’t invite they probably won’t even notice either.


Just my opinion

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That's exactly what I'm thinking which is why I thought it would be best to check. Like, aside from the 'happy birthday' posts on facebook, we've just fallen out of touch so I feel like it will be ok (of course if we reconnect I'd have no issue keeping them on the invite list).

View Quoted Comment I think that’s a great plan!

If you're considering doing a live stream, you could still offer that option to those people. We cut from 120ish to 50 for covid and planning to live stream so those who had to be cut (and maybe even some friends of our parents that we didn't even consider for the initial size) can still be included. We'll have 2 different mailings, the invites for the 50 and something with live stream info for anyone else.

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No live stream. We won't have an issue in how many we can invite (our restrictions here have mostly been eased now but not at the time we decided to postpone) it's more that we just don't have the relationship with some people that we did previously hence why now I don't know if we invite them since the wedding is now a good 14 months away

There are def a handful of people that I’m cutting from our postponed big celebration. Same situation as you, we’re just aren’t in touch anymore, and they’re not anyone I “need” there. As Margaret said, I’m hoping they just won’t even notice lol. If they bring it up, I’ll likely just say that since we had to plan two weddings, we unfortunately had to reduce our budget and guest list. If they find it rude and never talk to me again it’s really no issue to me, we don’t talk as it is lol.

I'm in the same boat. I just put it out there that we are cutting our guest list by more than half, we're sorry that we can't invite everyone to the new date, but that we'll try to stream it so everyone will be able to watch it at home. Then we put "We appreciate your good wishes for our future" to shut down any negative nonsense. So far, it seems to have worked. Of course there might be some hurt feelings, but ultimately, we are going ahead with our wedding as we see best and that is the key. If anyone asks me directly, I'll be honest and straightforward about it. I'm actually way more excited about the smaller wedding than I was about the big blow out.