Backstory: So my mom and I had an okay relationship until about 9 months ago. She was very unhappy when I moved in with my now fiancé in January and, although he asked her and included her in the proposal, she seems less than thrilled that I’m getting married. Four months later, she gets engaged to her boyfriend of five months (which my sister thinks is at least partly out of jealousy). We’re still on speaking terms, but our relationship has been strained to say the least, and she’s made wedding planning super stressful.
So I booked an appointment to shop for wedding dresses this weekend, and only invited my sister and best friend (maid and matron of honor). I wanted to have a small group at first while I get a feel for what styles I like because shopping for clothes in general is extremely stressful for me. I have had a feeling my mother is going to comment on my weight in certain styles (as she has in the past) or try to make the day all about her. She says it doesn’t bother her, but should I feel guilty for not inviting her?